I'm 19 and just starting to understand my gay sexuality. Who can help?

Question

I've never had sex with anyone. I don't even know how to act with a guy. Am I passive, active, a bear, a chub, a twink, leather, jock, cub, skin, fetish, size queen, size king, top, bottom, group, solo, interracial, biker, skater........? I'm athletic, 5'11", 30" waist, chiseled model good looks, well endowed, cut, great abs, nice bubble butt, slightly hairy chest and wear jeans and t-shirts. What am I? Who can help me discover myself?

Answer 1

Your question sounds like an adult ad. Are you in the right place? E-mail me if you want. Kisses

Answer 2

You are You.
Simple said and done.

Don't waste your time thinking you need to fit in to a group live life by what you feel is right for you. If you need to categorize yourself then you would be a Jock. Tall, Dark, and Handsome.

Fetish, Size Queen, Size King, Group, Solo, Interracial, Biker, Skater - those are categories made up by porn sites. So are all the other ones.

The other ones I'm sure you don't know what they mean because 99% of them don't even come close to that which you say you are.

Answer 3

Miguel, The first step is to figure out what you think you'd like. From your description, I'd doubt that you are a chub, bear, cub, biker, etc. But regardless of which category you put yourself into, what do you want or what do you think you'd like? That is where it starts. This discovery process takes time and will happen, I'm sure!! Good luck. Write to me if you want more suggestions.

Answer 4

Mostly every one at this age feels same as you do, and have same gay bearings, it just you have to control it, no one basically created as a gay but we make our selves like this, you never have sex yet as you say so in my opinion it is an essential element for this feeling. Try to get a nice girlfriend and start with her, let her show you what women present, then you will find that this gay sexual feelings were just an illusion, give your self enough time, time will show you obviously what a mystery is now, good luck.

Answer 5

Since you're just discovering your sexuality, I would consider joining a GLBT youth group either on campus or in town. If you're still in high school, join a GSA. Now this is more for understanding and accepting your homosexuality rather than getting a date, but if you find someone there anyway, good luck.

Answer 6

What are you? You're gay but you just won't admit it. You don't know how to act with a guy? Don't worry pal. He'll soon show you. A word of caution. Take care. There are a lot of monsters out there, especially older, married blokes.

Answer 7

Only you can discover yourself. I don't think you should worry too much about labels. There are a lot of online groups and websites that you could talk to people in similar situations for support. Just be safe and don't worry so much about defining yourself... just be you.

Answer 8

The best answer I can give you is to try a little of everything that sounds interesting to you.You will find what you like and you will then know what you don't like as well.Experiment but be safe.Always use safer sex practices such as condoms.

Answer 9

Take anyone. How do they know who they are? Only that person can help themselves to discover about self.

Join groups of like minded people. It could be gay. It could be hetero. May be you are bi.

But, hey you sound like you are thinking high of your body and not of your mind. Take genuine interest in others. You will discover yourself.

Answer 10

Miguel, I read your questions posted in Yahoo Answers. If you have a curve dick it does not make you gay! And as one person suggested, turn off your computer and play nintendo or something.

Answer 11

Just be true to yourself and your desires. Eventually you'll be able to see enough of the picture to find a label that fits who you are if you think that you need one.