Due to an overwhelming reponse to my previous question, mostly telling me to get out of my existing relationship (deep down i knew the answer anyway i guess, as she cant be reasonable at all) can anyone tell me how responsible am i for her children? We are not married but share the mortgage on the house. She doesn't work and cannot buy me out or earn enough to take the house on. I earn a 'comfortable' wage. I would like to sell the house and move on even though i know selling a house is going to be difficult in itself let alone under these circumstances. Can i force her to sell? Will i be held accountable for her children until they're 18. Should i live in the house whilst it is going throught the selling process. I know she doesn't want this really, she is taking advantage of my love for her and wants her cake and eat it. Please help. For the record' my friend is allowing me access to his account and any questions posted before today do not relate to my situation.
2007-01-06 22:54:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why aren't you using your own account?
Anyway, if the children are not yours and you haven't adopted them you have no need to look after them legally.
The house; it will be a simple possession order. this takes time and will be similar to evicting her and the kids, you will have to go to court and it takes an age to sort as no court will throw her and the kids into the street.
If you can cope, keep the house and rent it to her, she will be entitled to support from the council.
2007-01-06 23:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not responsible for her children but you do need advice from a solicitor about whether you can get an order for sale of the house, given that it might mean kicking her and the kids out. If this would mean she would realise enough to put a deposit down on a new, smaller place, the court might agree to make an order, but otherwise it might be a question of the local authority rehousing her and the children. If that's necessary, then they wouldn't do that if she just agreed to move out. They would say she had made herself intentionally homeless and they wouldn't help, whereas if the court orders the house is sold then they may be able to help and she should have priority as she has children. My ex had to go to court to get an order for sale of his house as his ex would not agree to it. They had no children and the local authority still rehoused his ex (who had had a child with her new man in the meantime).
2007-01-07 03:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kids are not yours in ANY way you have no legal responsibility for them.
Sharing the mortgage, does that mean you are both owners or does she just pay for some of the bills or what? If she is part owner you have to get her to agree to sell it, then it can go on the market. If she has no legal right to it, then you can sell it no matter what she says. If she has paid some of the mortgage without any legal binding you have a moral issue, she should be reimbursed then.
2007-01-06 23:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the ??? Get a good lawyer. What a situation!!! You guys entered a contract as coowners (mortgage). If her name is on the title of the house you are screwed. If it's not you can sell the house. Find your title, and see who really owns the house and the right to sell or do whatever with it. If it's both of you good luck.
2007-01-06 23:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is likely that a court would allow her to live in the property untill they finish relevant education. you would then be able to force a sale for a percentage of the property. if you are comfortable money wise then think of your share as a savings account. i doubt you are responsable for the kids but you are responsable for your wife if she has no income of her own. she could take you to court for an interim maintanance order and may well get one. if you left she would be eligble for income support as a single parent and the interest on the mortgage would be paid from day one(as long as she claims as SOON as you have left.) otherwise she would wait 40 weeks for it. try to end this on a good note, good luck
2007-01-10 07:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by elaine g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you understand, you should not be making life changing
decisions based on Yahoo answers. A goodly part of the answers here are misleading. If you are leaving a partner based on this post you could not have had much invested in the relationship.
2007-01-07 00:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the children are not yours then you have no legal obligation, your ex could get rehoused by the council, contact a lawyer or go to citzen advice, they will give you all the information you need
Good Luck
2007-01-07 00:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by grace k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if the children are not yours they are not your responsibility. i know you have looked after them for a long tome and they probably call you dad but children would prefer you two apart rather than live with two people arguing. if you decide to sell the property the local council would rehouse her and her children i no you would feel awful but its for the best. take care and good luck.anna
2007-01-10 22:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by annamalvern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depends on how long you live with them and what you have done for the children in the past, and how you feel about them (the kids) i mean,
you might want to get a lawyers advice because this sounds like it could get very messy
2007-01-07 00:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not responsible for someone else's children.
As you are not married and she is not earning she will have to leave and you take on the full mortgage and of course the house if she owns half will be valued and half of the market value minus the mortgage will have to be given, so be prepared to remortgage, you may decide you wish to move yourself.
That's it.
2007-01-07 00:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwaves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋