Is breaking up always painful or does the pain mean there's still hope?

Answer 1

You don't mention anything about the circumstances of your break up or the previous relationship, but I can say from experience, that if there is a break up, serious enough to call off a relationship, it's usually for a good reason on both sides.

Breaking up is always painful. Sometimes the pain seems more than we cope with. It hurts our feelings and yes, our hearts a little to know that maybe someone doesn't love us anymore. And it can shake our faith in ourselves to realize that the person we thought we loved so much - is someone that we can actually live without.

Even when we know the reasons why, there's still always that question of "what might have been" if things had worked out. Unfortunately, this does not mean there is hope for the relationship. Sometimes, even the best of relationships just don't work out for one reason or another.

First realize that you're not crazy. The feelings you have are real. If you give it time, you will find ways to cope with the pain. Give yourself some time alone. Cry if you need to, pound your pillow if you need to, curse if you need to. Even in your grief, stay as calm as you can and when your grief is less, you will be ready to face the world again without your old partner.

Relationships are partly about establishing habits of being together - when you call, when you go on dates or just stay home together. It is a good idea to find other productive things to do to fill the time and space the other person used to fill. Find friends, family or others to share this with when you're ready. You'll find that you're not alone. Your pain is shared. And you will be able to go on.

Acknowledge the pain, acknowledge the loss.

Then move on with your life.

Answer 2

breaking up with someone we love is always painful, for the one who didn't want the breakup. there is always hope, but one must accept the facts, and if it doesn't work out as he had hoped, we have to be able to accept that maybe the relationship is over, and to not accept it, we can never heal. talk to the person, see where their heart is, even if u fear the rejection that might come, at least u will know how the other person feels.

Answer 3

The person that does the breaking up isn't always the one experiencing the pain. Enduring pain doesn't always mean there's hope, it means it's over for good.

Answer 4

Not really. The pain only means you really did not or chose not to see that the relationship was ending and your emotions have been thrown a devastating blow. Most of us have gone through it and we do live through it. I know it seems like it is unreal and that you can never move on but you will. I had to go through it a few weeks ago and I am getting through it. You can try talking to someone you trust about it and it will just take time to heal. Also try to do things that will take it off your mind.

Answer 5

Denial… it’s not just a river, it’s a freakin ocean. Swimming that ocean can be more harmful than sitting on the sand and watching the tide go out. Fighting the waves of hope and despair can cause one to give up and go under. I’m still going through it myself but I’m learning that hope can also be your lifeboat and you can use it to find dry land. You don’t have to go down with the ship. You’re final destination is still out there. Turn your boat toward true north and never give up hope.

Answer 6

yes breaking up is always painful, it is a life lesson to avoid next time, as for hope, no there is none, and usually if you re-enter the same relationship after it has finished the first time will only cause you to be a door mat for anything they don't like

Answer 7

No... the pain usually means you were on the receiving end of the breakup... it wasn't your decision... your feelings are still there... and that's where the pain comes in...

Answer 8

it is always painful ...even when there is no hope.....time is a pretty good healer...keep yourself busy...good luck