2007-01-06 22:12:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
How much time do you have before he deploys? Do you both want to have a baby while he's away? If so... Your best bet will be to begin tracking/charting your cycle and to use an ovulation predictor (online... I will attach a link to the site I use to chart my periods, ovulation, etc.) or buy an ovulation test at your local drug store.
Will this be your first child? If so, really think about if you really want to be pregnant while your fiance is away... being pregnant is hard enough by itself. It's even harder when your loved one is deployed for the whole thing! Plus, pregnancy is a special time & experience that both parents should be able to share. I can't tell you how it felt when we went for that first ultrasound together!!! Can you not wait until he gets back? We got pregnant with our first baby the same day hubby got home from Iraq! I am not kidding... my water broke on my due date exactly 9 mos later and I'm glad it happened that way. My pregnancy was difficult... and to imagine not having him with me for the birth.... I'll just leave it at that.
In the end, I'll just say that I was fortunate that my hubby wasn't deployed for my pregnancies and was able to be there & see our daughters born. I know some who weren't as fortunate, but I don't think they regret their decision.
I hope it works out for you guys!
2007-01-07 02:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-25 02:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to let you know that this is one of the hardest things you will ever do. Not the getting pregnant part but being pregnant with him gone. I am going through the same thing right now. My husband and I decided that we would do this also. He regrets it everyday. Not the fact that we decided to have a child just the time frame we decided to do it in. It will be very hard for both of you. He wont be able to go to the doctors with you and you cant just call him up when you feel the baby move or don't get sick for the whole day. There is not a 100% chance that he will see his child be born. Its a strain on him because he will end up feeling bad for not being there like a father should be. Just make sure that you both are emotionally strong enough for this. Its really hard. My husband and I wish we would have waited. good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-01-07 02:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by EMW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the ONLY way is to have sex-only if you are about to ovulate though. You cant get pregnant unless you ovulate. Sperm can live up to 5 days. It just depends on your body and when your fiance leaves. Why dont you wait til he returns? It is very emotional and hard when going thru deployment.
2007-01-07 00:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have unprotected sex.
Make sure it's what you want to do though. Sometimes the emotion of him leaving will overwhelm you, and you want to have his child as a reminder of him. It also makes you feel like it will better his chances to come home, and for him to not forget you while gone.
Missionary position is the most likely position to get your pregnant. Also, take prenatal vitamins or geratol. They prep your body to get pregnant, as well as keep it balanced during pregnancy.
If you really feel like you want his child, maybe you should consider eloping. Then try for a child.
Good luck, and I am so sorry to hear that he is leaving. I know it will be a long journey for him, as well as for you. I wish you the best, and please tell him, he is greatly appreciated and most definetely a hero!
2007-01-06 22:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get one of those ovulation kits and or a thermomter and track your waking temprture
Obstain from sex a day or two before your ovulation day. that day have sex and after wards put your hips up on a pillow and lay there for a couple of hours. encouraging those sperms to swim uphill..
Better yet. Pray
2007-01-06 22:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the trick would be to stay stress free. Relax as you make love. Don't think about what could or couldn't happen while he is gone. Just enjoy the moment and indulge on the want for each other.
2007-01-06 22:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tip Toe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Party like it's 1999
2007-01-06 22:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Do your self a pick and wait to get married. The journey does change human beings and also you extremely could comprehend what deployments are like in the previous you dedicate to marriage and believe me it will make your courting improved. a lot of human beings make the mistakes of having married in the previous the first deployment and don't like the ameliorations they see even as their loved one comes homestead. the protection rigidity life isn't for all of us. good success.
2016-12-28 07:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have unprotected intercourse no more than every other day. More frequently than that can dilute your partners sperm too much. Also be sure that you are taking folic acid (he can as well) to help prevent neural tube defects. Good luck.
2007-01-06 22:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by jrandolph1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋