ok me n my girl been together 1.5 years so far at the begining she wanted to have sex ALL the time n i was ok with it. now 4 the last 4 months she doesnt want too n tells me that i think about SEX all the time...i cant even cuddle with her like we used too(i normally hold her with 1 hand holding boob and the other in between her thighs (nothing sexual- that the way we've been sleeping since day 1) n she thinks im doing that to get laid. i just tell her shes loosing it because if were used to doing things a certain way n now she wants to change it up...i personnaly know she aint cheatting but it makes me wonder. i know females at time get tired of having sex for a while but not 4 months....men n women have needs...i just dont get it ...shes streesing me out n its messing up our relationship.....WHAT DO U THINK?
2007-01-06 21:37:03 · 10 answers · asked by L3ZBiiAN SW33TZ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i just turned 24 n shes about to be 32
2007-01-08 06:56:57 · update #1
I think that you should talk to her about it. Try to express yourself without being accusing, so that she doesn't feel that you're trying to cause an argument. Tell her you feel that sex is an important part of your relationship, and you're having a hard time understanding why the two of you haven't been physically close in such a long time. Listen to her explanation, and try to come up with a resolution that will work for both of you.
Good luck!
2007-01-06 21:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by hannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All relationships change and evolve over time. I would find a different (non threatening) sleeping position, maybe just spoon. When she notices the change she may then ask whats up. Like any relationship communication is your best friend.
2007-01-06 22:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, maybe your just growing apart from each other.
She could be having an affair? Thinks your having an affair? Or maybe she just does not want so much sex at the moment, peoples sexual activites fluctuate over time.
2007-01-06 22:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by djw008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she don't care for you anymore.
I know it by experience.
It is hard but better let go now than make it worse on yourself.
Tel her that you need intimacy.
If she can't or replies"all you want is sex":draw your conclusions and tell her that the relationship just ended,because you feel alone being together.
I wish you get a better girl.
greetings:Rob.
PS:she does not deserve you.
2007-01-06 22:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are more than just sex...something the gay community has yet to grasp. What other things are there in your relationship? Is sex the only thing it is based upon?
Maybe you need to explore similiar hobbies and likes and dislikes. Ever thought of joining a softball league or Dykes on Bikes?
2007-01-06 22:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If her libido is at a point where she does not need. Keep your relationship plutonic with lots of love and affection. BUT get your sexual release from another woman.
You could also learn to enjoy lesbian porn and get off watching that so that you no longer need her for that side of your relationship.
2007-01-06 23:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn these ppl have been mean to you..... so, first off how old are u guys? my guess is that ur both young,...which has a lot to do with it,...were u her first girlfriend? maybe she wants to know what it's like with someone else, maybe she does want a man...maybe that's all the relationship was to begin with, lust disguised as love... and when a realtionship is built on sex, it;s not that hard to tear it down.....u need to sit down with this girl and figgure out what u both want,...if she doesnt want u, move on... ur only torturing urself....good luck!
2007-01-06 21:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
me and your girl have not had any problems with sex in the past 4 months...
2007-01-06 21:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Personally, I think she's growin' up,... follow her.
2007-01-06 21:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by spir_i_tual 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get your puss-ee on the side until she straightens her act out.
2007-01-06 21:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋