is it normal for your ex to tell you he/she still loves you but then a few days later (and after no contact) he/she acts like he hates you and says it? is this normal in divorce, or what does it mean?? my feelings have remained steady, like i'm sad but know its the best thing to do and i stay fairly calm when around my ex...so whats up with the emoional swings?
2007-01-06 21:34:46 · 19 answers · asked by dianek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
princessdiane_1993 um, i have no idea what you are talking about..i think u got me confused with someone else.........
2007-01-06 21:53:43 · update #1
Going through a divorce always has emotional swings for both parties and no it is never easy to keep those in check. Probably he does still love you and a part of him always will. The thing to keep in mind that he is probably resentful and then puts that in check because he does still love you but he doesn't want to put that out there in front for you to see. Be cordial as you can be with him and do your best to ignore the mood swings, as time goes on his feelings will more than likely calm down too.
2007-01-06 21:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by yutrppn45 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, of course you stay calm. In divorce, women seem to have the ability to turn love, caring, etc. on and off like a switch, much easier then men do. Now women will always scream it is the reverse, yet they prove my point right almost all the time.
Now, one moment someone can remember something that was great in a relationship and be happy, the next they think of something that was horrid or painful and get mad. Thats how the mind works. If a man is not the one who wanted the divorce, it makes actions such as you described even more likely.
I am sure you do think this is best. If this is the average divorce, you are the one who wanted and seeks it, so it would be natural that you think it best and are calm. Why not be, for you are getting what you want. If you didnt want it, sorry for the above, but in well over 50% of divorces, the women are the ones who decide they dont want to be married anymore.
2007-01-06 22:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional swings are normal in a divorce, however, as long as the two of you still see each other after the divorce, the feelings of love and hate will continue. Why divorce if you are going to continue the relationship? Only you can decide when to put an end to this.
2007-01-06 22:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Teach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional swings are normal for some people, especially under stress. You know your ex, you're probably in a better position to answer whether or not he's the type of person who might exhibit such behavior. I've gone through a traumatic divorce, but we kept things very civil between the two of us, and the only things I ever lashed out at him for was stuff like him lying to me about our joint bills that he did not pay (flakiness makes me very angry in general), it was never anything personal. Depends on the people I think.
2007-01-06 21:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talking from someone who has been there? Its a discomfort that for the duration of consumer-friendly words some individuals comprehend of. Time is your suitable chum. Get out, rigidity your self to be with associates, kinfolk. by way of the years, you'll comprehend what become incorrect, supply up idealizing her, see her for the guy she grew to grow to be after the cut up, and if you're fortunate, have the capacity to see her as a chum. Hun, divorce is continuously bitter and not hassle-free, no be counted how issues are going between the attorneys. Its an end of a few thing you dreamed of. Its organic to break, sting, cry, beat the walls up, and also you may or have. positioned a time decrease on how lengthy you'll enable your self to wallow. once its over, flow ON. a good number of ladies accessible who might want to love hence far you, yet do not rigidity it. Time, and a good bottle of scotch. labored for me after I divorced my husband. Am I over it after 10 years? extremely? No. It receives more effective useful.
2016-12-28 07:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal during a divorce for those emotional swings...There are so many feelings going on within yourself at that time...feelings of loss...feelings of failure....fear of the unknown to come....it takes time but everything will work out in the end
2007-01-06 21:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is not usually like that.. i guess both of u are just not ready for the divorce. Perhaps u both need more time to ponder about the divorce issues. It's okie to take more time thinking seriously rather then moving on but with regrets tag on. (To be together is never easy, marriage is not a game)
2007-01-06 21:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by tiramisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for people that didn't want the divorce. Their emotions can be at an all time high.
2007-01-06 23:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty normal. He/she is having a hard time letting go. My ex would tell me that he still loved me and wanted to work things out then he would call me on the phone and call me names or write horrible letters to me. His emotions ran hot and cold when we were together too. He loves himself more than he can love anyone else.
2007-01-06 21:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is norm for him to tell you he still loves you. but from what you are saying he is playing head games with you and your better off to just walk away and tell him the same to just leave you alone until he can stop playing head games with you. Those kind of game hurt deep down inside of any one and everyone in the long run. plz wite me and let me know how you make out. Good luck hun
2007-01-06 21:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Joe G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋