Pisces in pain, how do we react?

Question

Basically, I am a pisces woman and I have realized that though I have let go of the many times I was wronged by members of my family they seem to be the only people who can bring out the monster in me.

I have payed close attention and I have NEVER lashed out on friends, never raise my voice to them, or anything of that sort. But when I am around family I can't seem to stop.

All in all, I am wondering if I will ever reach this terrible status with someone outside of my family, but that's not my question.

My question; How do pisces react when continuously hurt?

I forgot to add, by family I meanmy:
Father, mother, brother etc.

Answer 1

There is a difference in lashing out and correcting being wronged... most likely youve been pushed to far if your lashing out. My family pushes me really far and all i do is correct what they say/do that affects me.

Theres only one person i seriously "lash out" at is my father but its really like pushing my point across him to where he really is a complete moron to not grasp what hes doing.
You probably wont be this way with friends ever... possibly long term relationships but not friends. You can dismiss friends, you dont HAVE to always be around friends... but family is permanent.

Accept them for what they are, jerks. Love them only because they are blood. Nobody has the right to WRONG you, correct it in a proper and somewhat calm tone... It really seems to work best.

We close people off on different levels depending on what they are doing thats bother us...

Me and my brother (both pisces) have closed our father off on a personal level. He is seriously the closest thing to completely pure negative BS energy that we have experienced. and we simply cant be around it.

Answer 2

What I can see you have a great lesson to learn to control yourself and not to loose your cool if you can over come this you will be fine your lesson will be learnt then you can move onto the next lesson in life : )
Now how well you start the discussion with I would like to talk
Remember not to raise your voice because when people argue they are not listen to what the other person is saying
When someone raises their voice stop the discussion and try again when things cool down.
Yes it can be a long process but the rewards will be great "Personal Growth"
Now for a little advice from Dr Phil : )

How to Fight Fair

How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.

A primary requirement for any fight is to maintain control. You do not have the license to be childish, abusive or immature. If you have legitimate feelings, you are entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)

"Disagreements are going to occur," says Dr. Phil. "The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You'll never win if you do that. If you make your relationship a competition, that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win. It's not a competition, it's a partnership."

Here are Dr. Phil's specific rules for fighting fair.

# Take it private and keep it private.
Fighting in front of your children is nothing short of child abuse. It can and will scar them emotionally — all because you don't have the self-control to contain yourself until you can talk privately.

# Keep it relevant.
Don't bring up old grudges or sore points when they don't belong in a particular argument. Put boundaries around the subject matter so that a fight doesn't deteriorate into a free-for-all.

# Keep it real.
Deal with the issue at hand, not with a symptom of the problem. Get real about what is bothering you, or you will come away from the exchange even more frustrated.

# Avoid character assassination.
Stay focused on the issue, rather than deteriorating to the point of attacking your partner personally. Don't let the fight degenerate into name-calling.

# Remain task-oriented.
Know what you want going into the disagreement. If you don't have a goal in mind, you won't know when you've achieved it.

# Allow for your partner to retreat with dignity.
How an argument ends is crucial. Recognize when an olive branch is being extended to you — perhaps in the form of an apology or a joke — and give your partner a face-saving way out of the disagreement.

# Be proportional in your intensity.
Every single thing you disagree about is not an earth-shattering event or issue. You do not have to get mad every time you have a right to be.

# There's a time limit.
Arguments should be temporary, so don't let them get out of hand. Don't allow the ugliness of an argument to stretch on indefinitely.

I hope this advice helps you : )

Love & Blessings
Milly

Answer 3

Unresolved family issues have a way of coming back on you later in life. If you want an Astrological interpretation of that, when then there are things like Karmic Cycles.

Right now the Lunar North Node is in Pisces, so this is the begining of a new karmic cycle for you. Be on your best behavior because this is the time of new karma. Be assertive (voice your needs, set boundaries), but don't be aggressive or passive-aggressive (don't strike out or become manipulative). Just be fair in all that you do.

Interpreting your solar chart, Neptune is in your 12th house of secrets, things that are hidden, secret enemies, and subconcious. You may not have a clear view of your subconcious motivations or they may be dissolving. Chiron is in there too, so there could be healing in this area.

Uranus is in your first solar house of appearance and ego, so your appearance may be changing suddenly at times or you may appear unpredictable.

Pluto and Jupiter are in your 10th house of career/formal education, so this is a key area for positive transformation this year provided that you do not act in an underhanded manner in matters related to career or education and do not bite off more than you can chew. The Pluto transition has been going on for 11 years, and it leaves for your 11th house of groups/community in 2008, so career/education are important this year.

Saturn has been in your 6th house of work, chores, and daily routines since June 2005, so you are being tested to become more effective in this area. In September 2007, Saturn enters your 5th house of romance, travel, and recreation, so any or all of these areas of your life can be tested at that time. It's a good time for refining creative talents, taking a sober view of romance, and it's not a good time to do things like gambling.

Answer 4

Pisces are very grudge holding probably because they can become so emotionally hurt by those they love. I am married to a pisces so i have seen it first hand.

Answer 5

When pisces are hurt...they don't say a word...they have that look when they seem confused....and step back...and close so much...you can never enter in their soul. but after a while when they forgive to the person and themselves then you can aproach to them...so just patience...you will forgive and forget...its in your nature ..whenever you like it or not.

Take care and good luck.

Answer 6

i'm a pisces as well...generally i just back away and close myself off but this can lead to an unhappy lady!!

my new tactic is just to confront the issue head on....its working so far!