OK, I know this is going to sould weard to most folks but I need some advice and not crap from the prudes. I am in a open marriage and that is our choice. My husband has 2 girlfriends and I know both of them. The problem is that they are best friends and they do not know that the other is seeing hubby. I like both of them and don't want there to be problems. Should I tell each of them about the other before they find out on their own, or just let it go. Also, niether of them are into 3soms so that isn't a option either.
2007-01-06 21:22:51 · 14 answers · asked by sexyladyinak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since this IS an open marriage, I would say that the problem isn't yours, but your husband's. You are not responsible for their lives, or for whom he choses to date. If they do find out, let your husband deal with it, as they are HIS problem.
2007-01-06 21:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to catch something! that is sick. honestly a open marriage is the stupidest thing anybody can ever do! why do u not love him that much to keep him as ur own? is he not man enough for u or are u not lady enough for him? about ur friends now let them find out, if they know about u im sure there not going to care about each other! so whatever happens good luck and make sure u dont get a std cause then u can say bye to ur hubby.
2007-01-07 05:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no prude, but I don't mean to be rude, why are you married if you what to sleep around, doesn't it make you feel cheap/used? I think what's best here is if you are honest with everyone, your husband's "girlfriends" should know the truth and I suggest that both you and your husband get some marriage counselling. Good luck.
2007-01-07 05:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question I want to have answered is what will happen to your relationship with them if one or both find out you knew? If the answer is negative, and they are 'open type people,' tell them. At least get your 'hubby' to.
Does this work well for you? How long?
2007-01-07 05:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely they both know about you right? The other half to your husband. They are both already playing second fiddle to you so what makes you think they will be upset if they find out they are not only sharing you with him but the other person as well?
I think you don't need to say anything as what ever will be will be. They are only secks partners for your hubby anyway.
2007-01-07 05:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a prude but i don't judge so my advice ur husband dug that hole so let him lie where he is. now the womanly thing to do is to let them know but in this world today where ppl shoot ppl for touching them wrong, i advise u not to say a word. u should tell ur husband to break it off b/c it will destroy their friendship if either of them find out. no p***y is that good that he cant find another. my only question is do these women know about u?
2007-01-07 05:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by blueygirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myself i wouldnt tell them because it could cause hardship within the 4 of you. Because maybe ur hubby dont want them to know whats going on. And that would cause a big conflict with all of you at the end.Plz write me and let me know how you make out.
2007-01-07 05:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by Joe G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. They know he's married and having a relationship other than them, so they shouldn't assume it's just with you. If you tell them about the other, then they and your husband are more likely to get mad at you.
2007-01-07 05:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just let it go, if they are willing to have a relationship with "hubby" then they should not have a problem with knowing that he is seeing the other.
2007-01-07 06:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by chante3712 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know your options but let me spell them out for you.
If you don't tell the girls and they later find out that you knew about both of them, they may resent you.
If you tell the girls against your husbands wishes, he may resent you.
Pick your battle. Pick your morals. It's your call.
2007-01-07 05:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Benji Duncan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋