My boyfriend smokes weed every once in awhile...it bothers me because I dont do it...help.?

Question

So, I honestly want and would LOVE to get past this issue. My boyfriend smokes weed every once in awhile, however, I dont like it because I dont do it. I do realize it's not the end of the world. But when he does it, all I think are crazy thoughts and how much I hate it. WHY do I made such a big deal out of it? I want to get past this. Everyone I know has done it, and they do it when they party...and if I want to party...I have to be open minded and just accept it. HOW!?

Answer 1

He is a loser.....any person who smokes weed is a low life loser!

Answer 2

Whoa....first off, you dont have to smoke weed to party. As a matter of fact, for a lot of people, when they smoke weed the last thing they want to do is party. If you feel strong enough in your own beliefs and values, then you will come to accept it naturally because it's not something that bothers you. It's one thing to have an opinion, but its another to get "crazy thoughts" about something. If it's not doing any harm to you, then why should you care. If your boyfriend isn't hurting anybody (mainly you) then you shouldnt worry about it. At most, just tell him how you feel and that you prefer not to be around him when he does it, without asking him to stop. If, you can't ever come to do that, then you can't handle being with someone that smokes weed. Much like some people can't be with people who drink.

Answer 3

Everyone is having a good debate about weed, but not really answering your question. It seems like you're asking what to do, not what people think, either way, about the fact that your boyfriend smokes pot now and then.

The answer to your question - hell if I know what you should do. You should see my personal life.

But since everyone else is talking about it, I don't think it's that big a deal that he has a puff every once in a while.

I just can't get over the people who compare marijuana to coke. It's like comparing baby aspirin to smack. C'mon.

Did you read Schaffer's post, above? This guy researches his viewpoints and always gets the same point across in a less confrontational manner than I seem to. You'll see his posts around on this subject. They're worth a read, as is his website.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

Try educating yourself. The story of how marijuana came to be illegal is downright funny. You can find it at http://druglibrary.org/schaffer/History/whiteb1.htm

One of the reasons you are uptight about it is probably because the US Government has had an openly admitted campaign of lying about it since the 1930s. Shortly after the laws were passed, the head of the Federal Bureau of Narcotics walked out on a bridge over the Potomac River and saw before him a field of cannabis that stretched as far as the eye could see. He knew then that the marijuana laws were completely unenforceable on his meager million-dollar budget. Therefore, he figured that the only way to deal with it would be to wage a campaign of stupendous lies -- Reefer Madness.

For example, the US Official Expert on marijuana said that marijuana could make your incisors grow six inches long and drip with blood. He testified in court, under oath, that when he tried marijuana, it turned him into a bat.

You can find a ton of research on marijuana at http://druglibrary.org/schaffer It includes the full text of the largest goverment commission reports on marijuana ever done. They all concluded that marijuana is not a serious threat to health. They also said that marijuana should have been legalized long ago because the laws do more harm than good.

Some people find that marijuana just isn't for them. They just don't like the effect. If it isn't for you, then don't use it. But don't get worried and uptight about other people using it. Alcohol is a far bigger threat to health and safety in every respect.

Answer 5

Why do you make such a big deal out of it? Maybe because it's illegal. I think you're instincts are spot on. If he does drugs in your presence and gets busted, you could end up with a record yourself. Ask yourself if you need that. Tell your boyfriend that from now on, he will not do drugs when he's with you. That's the very least you have a right to expect. But really, when you think about it, why do you see your future with a drug head?

Answer 6

It depends on how long yall have been dating and how much you feel like you have invested in this relationship. If you two are serious about each other and and have been dating a while, you both will have to compromise. If he does it every once and a while, then it's no big deal let him have his fun occassionally. If he really likes to smoke a lot, then you two probably aren't compatible and you need to find someone else who doesn't smoke. Pot heads won't change unless they want to. I know, I used to be one. If you try to make him change, then he will only hide his smoking from you.

Answer 7

If it bothers you that much, that means you are not mature enough or open-minded enough for you to accept it. The fact of the matter is, you just have a negative thoughts about weed. And since you don't do it, it makes it worse. If it bothers you that much, maybe the best thing to do is break up. Or tell him that it bothers you. Good luck

Answer 8

I won't allow my boyfriend to smoke even a cigarette. When I met him, he didn't smoke or drink. So that's how it's going to be. That's just how I've always been. I won't tolerate people who smoke around me. When I was in my early teens, when my friends began to smoke I would literally stop being their friend because of it. Sounds psychotic, I know! But, that's just how I am.
I wouldn't be able to accept the fact that my boyfriend is taking a drug! That's stupid. A few months ago when my boyfriend was away working. I found out that he started smoking, right away I made him choose me or the cigarettes.

That's just how I am, and I refuse to change who I am so that someone I love can abuse a drug.

Answer 9

#1 - It IS illegal... that's a pretty good reason not to like it.

#2 - Don't do it for peer pressure. You're smarter than that.

#3 - This drug tends to lead many down a path to more serious drugs...

There are so many reasons he should stay away from it. And if he won't... maybe you should seriously consider staying away from him and getting some friends with better moral character that know how to have fun with more creativity than having to use drugs or alcohol.

GOOD LUCK!!!

This is a site that will give you a LOT more information.
http://www.nida.nih.gov/MarijBroch/Marijteens.html

Answer 10

It's a big deal to you because it's proof that your boyfriend is a dumbass!

Potheads rationalize their irresponsible behavior with fallacious arguments and spin.

I'm no angel by any stretch of the imagination, but I know stupid when I see it or hear it (been there, done that) and there is no good reason to smoke pot or snort coke.

You don't like it because you know right from wrong and you picture your dumbass bf as the problem that he is.

If he doesn't get a clue, you need to find someone with your values.

Answer 11

My friend use to smoke weed and guess what? Because of us , her friends and I, she has now stopped. I am a real big anti-drugs person and it bothers me too to think tht someone I care for is endangering their life. I even stopped my father from smoking when i was 4 =D. If I were you I would confront him with your feelings about him smoking weed. It might be tough but it worked with my friend, that and supporting her to stop and showing her why she should quit.