my nieces best friend lives with us because her mum has nothing to do with her.she has now come home pregnant and the babys father does;nt want anything to do with her.what do you think i should do.i already have 20 grandchildren.
2007-01-06 20:44:55 · 11 answers · asked by Nanny Bev 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i know u have a heart for the 21st
2007-01-06 20:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know I'm not gonna get a best answer for this, but she does have options. I don't know how old she is or how far along she is, but if shes just found out and not too far along, she should digest this info for a bit before making a decision. whether she keeps it, gives it up for adoption or whatever, the big thing is to support the decision. I had a friend that got pregnant too early and decided to give it up for adoption. Some people thought it was horrible, but inside she knew she wasn't ready to be a mother, and the couple who got the baby (because they coulnd't concieve themselves) were very grateful. And I think It was quite responsible of her to realise that she wasn't ready, and give the baby a good home
2007-01-06 20:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by oscr_thegrouch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is with you as she doesnt have anywhere else to go, but youre right its not up to you to take care of her. you can help her, could you try talking to the girls mother??does she know shes pregnant? the mum must be heartless is she can turn her own daughter away when shes pregnant!! you could contact the council about housing the girl, she is in a way homeless, and single parents will become priority if they know the circumstance she and you are in. also try contacting the local womens refuge, i know it sounds dramatic but thats what the women there are for, they will come out and talk to you both and go through your options what you can do. they are lovely i have dealt with them in the past and they helped me no end, they also work closely with housing and would help you there too. i know its put the owness on you, but shes there now and you must help her, god knows what the girl must be feeling. does she want to keep the baby?all you can do is just be there for her, write her a letter if need be so she can digest it in her own time. but you have your own life and own grandchildren, explain that. i hope you get sorted out soon, good luck xx
2007-01-06 21:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey friend
Look,that girl is pregnant, so for what ever may be the reasons were due to that her mother and husband dint bother to her . may she did something very bad that any one cant accept it ,ye she should be punished if u see in this way then u should be totally against her and u should throw her out of u r house without thinking anything.
But she is accepting , she is pregnant so its not about her its about that angel which is there in her womb, that angel haven't done anything .so why he should suffer.
so for the sake of that baby u should help her out in this situation think if this would have hap pend with u r daughter and she is out and nobody is helping her in this situation .see always whatever we do we will be paid for that and for this u will get great reward from u r god .
may got help u in choosing the right way.
2007-01-06 21:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by skhr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It don't sound like she's going to marry this guy and start a life with him or have someone to take care of the baby besides you, she need to think of things in the long run like college, career, and having her own home before she start to even think of bring a child into the world. Give her only the support she needs to become her own woman and handle things like this on her own with her husband. Your not mother Teresa, you must live your own life to.....
2007-01-06 20:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing this girl needs now if for you to turn away from her , it sounds like she has had enough of that from other people. What she now needs is your unconditional support, regardless of whether you approve. Bite your tounge, ask her what she wants to do, and support her all the way!
2007-01-06 21:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question that you should probably not be asking for advise over yahoo. i meen we ahve no idea what you situation is or your relationship with this girl. the only advise i can give you is if you care for this girl then give her the support she needs to make a decision thats right for her, and as far as financial support goes, let her knowwhat kinds of agencies and programs are availuable in your area to her.
2007-01-06 20:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by claire 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What can you do now ? Show her love and provide the adult connection she should have already been enjoying and deserve.
Don't let the father get off scot free either.
2007-01-06 20:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by chillipope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like she needs love and support from someone. Just be there for her if she needs someone. Don't coddle her but don't turn her away either. Poor kids sounds like she has had it rough.
2007-01-07 00:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by arwensilverwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help and support and it looks like you are the only one that can give that to her right now. If all the people in her life have turned their backs on her, imagine how she feels. Please help her.
2007-01-06 20:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋