she thinks she is so cool?

Question

my husband works with this lady his age, they joke around a lot, over xmas we went to their house, she is married also, she tells my husband to wear tighter jeans and she sat across from him with her feet on his knees, she asked me if i minded, i said no, he did not move and they sat like that for over an hour, I feel like moving on and finding someone to love, what do you think. i think he should of moved/

Answer 1

Yes By All Mean's He Should Have Moved! That Is A Good Sign That He's Cheating! Talk To Him! She Has No Respect To Have Done Something Like That In Front Of You! And He Showed You How He Is With Other Women! You Should Have Been Honest And Said "Yes I Mind" Maybe Tell Him If He Loves You And Want's To Be With You To Find Another Job! And To Stop Talking To That Women! Don't Be Played! She Was Much To Close To The NO NO Part's Of Your Man! Don't Stand For It Are You'll Get Hurt! Think Of What She Might Being Doing When Your Not Around! And Tighter Jeans Is So She Can See The Whole Package! Im Really Sorry To Hear That Your Being Put Through This! Just Keep In Mine That A Good Man Are A Man That Loved You Wouldn't Be Doing This!

Answer 2

Feeling a little insecure, are we? Well, you could just drop the relationship, I guess. Quit. Give up. But that's only a temporary solution. Eventually you'll want to be with someone again, and your insecurity will crop up.
Alternatively, you could confront your problem. The fact is, you felt threatened by another woman who could potentially take away your husband. But why? Some self-examination would be in order here. Why would your husband leave you for that woman? What is it you feel you don't have that she does? From there you'll know how to work on YOURSELF (because that's where the problem lies) in order to become a more secure person.
Work hard.

Answer 3

I think they have a MUCH too casual working environment...

Not to cause more problems... but don't be made a fool, either...
Ummmm.... SOMETIMES.... when people (even married to different people) work together in a casual environment, they think it's harmless flirting... BECOMES MUCH MORE!!!

And SOMETIMES... having the 2 couples HANG OUT together... is a COVER UP for what's really going on... or ABOUT to go on... behind the scenes. However, she is WAY too BOLD to pull something like that... and HE is as guilty as SHE for not moving!

(WARNING! Don't get the idea that you can turn the tables on them and flirt with her hubby or insinuate anything of the such... THEY would likely use it as a green flag or an excuse, or think they could introduce partner swapping on occasion to make it out like you are as guilty as they and are okay with it...)

If you truly love him, you need to decide if you can get past this if he gets away from the situation. If you can, you must confront him... He will likely deny it... Just let him know that the writing is on the wall and their actions in your presence was a major red flag. If he isn't willing to change the situation, go to counseling, do whatever it takes to get beyond this... then you have some serious decisions to contemplate.

Answer 4

You should not have said you didn't mind when you really did, and your husband should not have sat like that with her, it was disrespectful to you and to the other woman's husband, who I presume was present also. Your husband has boundary issues which need to be addressed before it's too late.

Answer 5

Yes he should have moved. Not only is it disrespecting you it's also making you look weak. It's like your giving her power to command your husband. That crap is unacceptable and inexcusable. This looks like the start of a possible affair. Just curious where was her husband and why didn't he say anything?

Answer 6

You said you didnt mind? Why would you say that when you did mind? I would of slapped my husband in the back of the head for allowing her to do that!

YA move on.. what a jerk

Answer 7

He disrespected you.
Now he can't be trusted.
I wrote a poem about it.

TRUST

Trust isn't a gift.
It's a prize there to win.
Respect fills the rift.
Trust's true origin

Disrespect shows
there is no conviction.
Faith in speech goes.
All words become fiction.

Heed more than your own
if you expect
trust to be shown.
It comes from respect

Answer 8

first off when she asked you should been a woman and said yes i do mind.but you probably was trying to act like you weren't insecure but it's not about that,it's about respect and obviously they both don't respect you.as your husband he should've put her in her place by telling her that's a NO NO.you need to let him know that won't be tolerated!!

Answer 9

I think you need to come over here and put your feet up on my knees and we could talk about it more.

Answer 10

I think that he should of moved too... you should of told her that it wasn't ok for her to do that or instead flirted with her husband :) :) :)