We have a 2 yr old, she is the custodial parent. I love my boy very much, and have court ordered visitation, and first right of refusal. The problem is she is constantly saying "HE IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS" If I inquire about his doctor appointment, or where she left him for the weekend (when he should be with me). She will hide him over at her Mothers, and she just loves telling me the same. I took my boy to get a hair cut yesterday, and my ex asked who cut his hair. I didn't tell her "none of your business", instead I said nothing at all. She is now going crazy, demanding I reveal this information. I think this is really minor compared to what she has put me through. I actually think it is her business, but I couldn't help myself giving some of her bullshit back. Do I need to tell her?
2007-01-06 19:47:39 · 17 answers · asked by ckgene 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going to tell her, I guess I should have asked wether it was ok to let her sweat it out for a bit.
2007-01-06 19:54:19 · update #1
It is really minor. Which is why you should just tell her. You should try to keep things civil between the two of you for the sake of your kid. Even if she's the crazy one, giving her a taste of her own medicine is still just adding more tension. Plus it will just give her more excuses to talk **** about you to people and to your son.
2007-01-06 19:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Petitiongirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try for joint custody.. Actually, she doesnt have to tell you anything when he is with her, and you do not have to tell her anything. You can even take the child to a church of your choice and she cannot say anything..
But no sense in playing games, it will only hurt the child. Just stop asking her. If there is something about his dr visit you should know, I am sure she would not keep that from you.. However, you do have the right to medical and school information, so if he needs a check up, you take him too.. And by all means go to school events, keep up with the school on your own.. its your right..
2007-01-07 04:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shhh. Don't tell my boyfriend that we are on the cusp of being in your situation. Are we together for the baby? yeh, sometimes. There might be some leftover angst about who makes the serious decisions (detect sarcasm?) Oh god I do not want to deal with what you are right now. He is your business and to say you aren't is a personal jab. When J and I fight, he threatens to take the baby. Can you make nice and pretend to understand her so she will be cool? Back to your question. Do not fuel the fire. I think if J had the baby or the govt. took her, I'd be forced to say anything to get what I want. I'm sorry you have to ask. s***
2007-01-07 03:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to give her a wake up call. Her attitude could end up harming her son.
Also if you are not getting visitations when you are supposed to you need to have your attorney do something about it. And he IS your business.
If you want to know about his appointments you may need to contact the doctor yourself.
However as far as paying her back? All you will end up doing is causing more friction which will harm your son.
What you might do next time she asks is make a deal with her. That you will tell her what she wants to know for the sake of your son but you want the same respect back, not for you but for his welfare. Tell her shes hurting him more than she is you.
2007-01-07 03:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since SHE is the custodial parent by LAW she has the right to know everything he does during your VISITATIONS. You do NOT have custody so you don't have a right to know what goes on in HER home. If you want that right I suggest you go to court and have the order changed to JOINT custody rather than only getting visitations...It will cost you a bit more money to go back to court though...
2007-01-07 04:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seeking revenge will only worsen a bad siuation. The important thing is your son and you must do whatever is in his best interest even if it means going to court again if she continues to hide him from you. He is most definitely your business and needs his father as much as he needs his mother. So, don't "feed" her foolishness by being immature. Good luck!
2007-01-07 03:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by jom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to stop lecturing her on how to raise your son, cause face it pal, you are not around when you're needed so she has to do it all herself. You might think it's a piece of cake, but you don't have a clue what you're talking about, when she's made it her business to learn everything she could on the subject since the day she found out she was pregnant. She's a pro. You're not. Let her do her job and stop interfering.
2007-01-07 03:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
the less you argue, the better off the child will be. kids know at a young age if there is hostility between parents. it may not be best for your ego, but the best for your son is for you to suck up your anger and tell her. maybe, eventually, your ex will see that you are ignoring her games and she might quit playing them (though i can't promise that). you can only hope.
2007-01-07 03:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You should treat her as she treats you. That goes for all relationships. She needs to understand that he is your son too. Make her life miserable. Make it as difficult for her as much as possible. Go out of your way to annoy her and bug her. She is crazy. Maybe she will eventually have a nervous breakdown and check into a mental institution. Then, you won't have to deal with her anymore.
2007-01-07 03:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well If I were you I would get a lawyer and take her back to court for interfering with your parental rights.
You have the right to ask questions about your son.
Your not asking where she is your asking bout your child.
2007-01-07 03:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋