Other than saying "I'm sorry" I am not sure how to convey my sympathy. This woman died suddenly and was only 33.
2007-01-06 19:43:40 · 11 answers · asked by LO! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can tell them that you are sorry and that you will be keeping her in your thoughts and prayers. You can share a favorite memory of tell them how she made an impact on your life. Word to the wise, never, ever say that they are in a better place. People especially do not want to hear this, because obviously they think the best place for her is here with them, not dead, so avoid the whole "in a better place", because I can guarantee they don't feel the same with that one. Take care.
2007-01-07 02:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Reagan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't even begin to imagine what a shock this must have been for you. I am so sorry. or, You have my deepest condolences. Or: She was such a wonderful person,/good friend I'll miss her. Say something nice about your friend, something you admired about her.
Just the fact that you are there and that you care sends a positive signal. They're in too much shock to remember what you're saying.
2007-01-07 03:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not going to remember what you have said. They are going to remember that you were there during their time of sorrow.
"I'm sorry" and a little chitchat as to who you are (if they do not know you) is all that is necessary.
I went to a friend's funeral once (age 28) and surprisingly, the family, even the extended one, was ecstatic that I had come, along with other friends. It was my presence that made them happy, not what I said.
2007-01-07 07:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how much the person meant to you and how you will miss them. It is so comforting to hear that. Then LISTEN to what they have to say. People like to talk about their lost loved ones.
My brother passed away three years ago and my Mom just "lights up" whenever anyone mentions him.
2007-01-07 03:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rubby ducky...lol
But, I would tell her family how good of a person she was, the funny memories you had toghter to cheer them up. Let them know she is in a better place.
2007-01-07 03:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by userdefined 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on what you thought of them, you can always say how great of a person they were.
2007-01-07 03:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if there is anything you could do to help. If they say no (which they probably will), let them know you are there to help if they need anything at all.
2007-01-07 03:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kate A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you look'em right in the eye and say
"i dont care what any one else says or thinks,, he/she was great and i will never forget the impression they left on me."
cuz thats all that matters... what people end up teaching us
2007-01-07 03:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by sionsolo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I send my condolences out to everyone in the
_______ family and I'll keep you in my prayers
2007-01-07 03:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by goodies100 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think so much about what to say just be there and things generally fall into place.
2007-01-07 03:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋