I think im gay...?

Question

im 13, for the past year iv been thinking im gay. i dont want to be gay, like i want to have a wife and kids, but i cant do anything about it. Do you think its just Hormones?

Answer 1

MIGHT BE HORMONES TALKING
MIGHT BE YOU ARE GAY.
GIVE IT TIME.
YOU ARE SO YOUNG.
MAYBE YOU DEVELOP ANOTHER TASTE,OR NOT.
TRY NOT TO CONCENTRATE ON THE MAYBE I AM GAY PART:TRY GROWING UP FIRST.
YOU WILL HAVE PLENTY TIME TO FIGURE IT OUT.
SUCCESS:ROB.XXX

Answer 2

Just because you think you are gay doesn't mean you are gay. When you get older you just need to do a little experimentation to find out what is right for you. There is nothing wrong with being gay, bisexual or Heterosexual. I have known lots of people with the same questions. You are only 13 years old. It could be hormones. Good Luck! I hope you find what is right for you.

Answer 3

You're young, but there is a chance that , yes, you might be gay. It is not the end of the world. Trust me. You can still have a good and fullfilling life being gay. I'm 57 and I'm gay and I wanted to have a wife and kids and it just wasn't in the cards for me. You, I don't know about. What I do know is that life is what you make it--we are not all dealt the same cards...

Answer 4

Ahh! You have all of these answers already, but I'm going to go ahead and give you my own. Hehe, okay.

Don't listen to anyone who says that you can choose to be gay. If you don't want to be, you still could be. Not that I'm saying you are.... nononono. You may very well be straight. But don't let those stupid labels hold you back, anyway. You don't have to associate yourself with any sexual orientation. It's lame, having people judge you by whether you are 'gay' or 'straight' or 'bisexual'. Just like who you like.

Anyway, from what you said, your worry seems to be more about the whole family arch, having a wife and kids and such. Come on, you're thirteen, you should be thinking about other stuff. Okay, I'm kidding, I think it's good that you look to the future, but you can still have a family if you're gay. It's more common-place for homosexuals to get "married" and adopt kids now. You don't even have to adopt, you could do that whole scientific thing where they combine your seed with that of a womans without any sexual contact. Pretty cool, huh? But yeah, if you are gay, having a family is going to be just as enjoyable as if you are straight.

To address the hormones question, it could just be that phase. Many many many people go through it. I'm sixteen and when I was fourteen I was absolutely dizzy for the cutest punk-rock girl with gorgeous blue eyes and short red hair. We really hit it off, too, but it took us a year to get together and by the end of our two month relationship, I knew that I was NOT interested in girls. I may find another girl that I have feelings for again, but I doubt it. I was never sexually attracted to her, there was just some strange psychological factor that drew me to her. Like I said, it's a phase that a lot of people go through.

But to relate it to you and your situation, I'll tell you this: Don't jump to the conclusion that you are gay if you have just been having feelings for another guy. Even if you are sexually attracted to him, it could still just be a phase. Guys are probably (this isn't based on fact, just my opinion) more likely to have sexual feelings than girls. If you have had sexual or otherwise romantic feelings for women in the past, it could still go both ways.

Now, if you have no interest in girls, whatsoever, no desire to open up a playboy magazine and look at naked women and, rather, you get turned on by guys and have a crush on a guy and all that jazz, maybe you really are gay. It's still not a for sure deal, though.

Whatever you are, embrace it. It's who you are and I don't know about you but I love myself more that anyone... hehe.

And... I don't know you, you don't know me, but PM or e-mail me sometime and we can talk about this or whatever, I don't care. Take care.

Answer 5

Why do you think you are gay? It is perfectly normal to have sexual thoughts throughout puberty, even same-sex ones. It probably is just your hormones but if you have engaged in any gay sex, then it is not hormones.Things like having masturbation contests with your friends aren't really gay, I bet a lot of straight people have done that.

Answer 6

OK look. If you look at a man, and think, "Yes, I want that" then you like men. If you look at a woman half naked, and say, "Yes, I want that." then you like women.

IF - You do BOTH of these, then you are BISEXUAL. You are going to be a selfish sex partner, and you will also be very fly with different things as a person.

If you are, do not fret. This is the 21st Century, I know a few married couples myself that have 3-ways with a woman, or man because one of them is bisexual.

Anyway, you are 13, you should be worrying about your grades, not your sexual preference. This you are too young to tell about anyway.

Answer 7

Don't worry about it. Take life as it comes. You are what you are despite what many of the idiots answering above say about it being a choice. I am gay and never made a choice about it and never had a chance to make a choice. See how you feel when you are older and go from there.
Good luck and have fun with whomever turns you on.

Answer 8

I'm 13 too, and I been wondering the same thing. i know now its just a phase and it will hopefully go away. Hormones are crazy for anybody to go through. All of my friends have the same problems too. So i'm very sure its just a phase, so don't worry about hun.

Answer 9

Sometimes teenagers go through phases. If you say you don't want to be gay, then hopefully for your sake, this is just a curiosity phase you are going through, and will outgrow it.
Do you like girls? Do you find them attractive? These are questions you may want to ponder. How do you get along with your male friends? Do you feel your relationships with both of the sexes is normal?
If you feel you can talk to your parents, it is always a good way to go. I'm sure they would want you to feel you could talk openly and honestly with them.

Answer 10

Hi honey.
Hormones do crazy things, so give it some time. If you do eventually come to the conclusion that you're definitely gay, try to learn to love and accept yourself. I know it's hard to accept that maybe you won't be 'normal' and live the classic 'American dream', but just because you're gay does not (!) mean that you can not have a loving, committed partner and children.

Answer 11

I think you are simply experiencing cusiosity about your sexuality. I believe ALL people have a certain level of curiosity about same-sex relationships - although only few will admit to it.

Why do you think you are gay? Maybe you are a little shy, and afraid of girls?

Maybe there haven't been any girls interested in you just yet?

Personally, I am VERY straight (not gay) - but I have always been curious about what it might feel like to touch another guy.

My woman and I sometimes enjoy including other people in our sex lives (known as "swinging"), and as we have had more experiences, I have become more comfortable with my level of curiosity, and have discovered that there are many married men out there (adult men) who have similar curiosities. This does not mean that they are gay - just that there is something that they might like to experience, that they have not yet tried.

Think of it this way:
Mae West once said: "I'll try anything once - twice if I like it!"

Some people have the urge to jump out of a perfectly good airplane with a piece of fabric strapped to their back - others desire to explore deep holes in the ground. Me? I like to explore sexuality - and this is a journey that you are only just starting out on. I think it is far to early for you to be able to determine whether you are gay or straight.

When you are of an age of sexual maturity (as early as 15 or 16 for some, as late as 20 or 22 for others), explore your sexuality - with women, since that is your stated preference at this time - and - if you still "think you are gay" at that time - try men too, and decide for yourself which you like best.

Don't be "afraid of being gay" - you said you are interested in getting married and have kids. With the right woman, this would not necessarily exclude you ever "experimenting" with another male. I am 42 - my oldest son is 14. i would prefer that he would turn out "straight" (not gay) - and I think he will, but if he didn't, I'd still love him.

I will act on my interests some time this year with another guy during one of the "play times" we have (my woman and I) with others, and I will finally have the answer about which I have been curious since I was your age.

I don't know if I will like it, but at least I will have tried it - once...

Thanks Mae!