Broken heart?

Question

Hi All,

I am a male, 31, from india. I lost my love, my wife recently. She thinks that i dont love her and she went with one other person.

I am not able to forget her and am in deep depression. How do i get out of it.

I thought i look for one friend on this list who could chat with me and share my sadness & happiness (though less happiness right now).

What do you think ?

Let me write more about me. I have a Son who is 4 years old with my ex wife.

Problem is i just cant forget her, every minute, every second. In this state, i know i will not make it. Even when i write these messages, my eyes start weeping...I cant express the state i am in.

Issue is, i cant forget my wife, i cant forget my son, but at the same time, my wife hates me and goes with some one else. Not sure why me, why do i have to face all this.

Thank you people for some of the answers, but i dont know if you would change your answer after i have put more details.

Only god can help me now, is what i feel.

Answer 1

Dear friend, sometimes life is not so simple as we want it to be.
I have myself have gone through a painful phase of life. I loved some one from depth of my heart, It was impossible for me to think of anybody else but he married someone else It brock my heart so badly that life was a hell for me. At such terns of life, we always have two ways to move on, one of deep depression n sorrow n other of spiritual evolvement. I chose the second one, I realised that whatever we see in this world it's a curtain to hide the truth of life, we r not sent here to just eat, work, get married n cry with pain. Mostly people don't like thinking about such things but it does't change the truth n this is the very reason so that we come across such turns.
I got married In hope of some happieness, but life was waiting for me with some more tests of my patience. married life was full of difficulties, friends n family suggested me to break the tie but I kept on triyng my best But u cant change a person's character n mentallity. Now when nothing was left in my life I met my soul mate, yes soul mate, we hardly have even any verbal contact but we both know what we r for each other, I cant tell u the depth of this love, His existance make me feel more near to God. I don't know about my future but I know It's in the hands of God which r much more safer n stronger than that of our's. U never know what is going to be happened in ur life next moment. Just read n learn the chapters of life which God wants you to learn, u 'll definetly be rewarded.
I never tell my story to anybody but ur pain have made me to do so, if it can help u.
The only thing I can say is Just believe in God no matter what n read some spiritual books ( I red Geeta n Osho ) n think deeply about truth of life.I wish that u meet True love of ur life (true love is not one sided like ur wife) Be in touch with ur son, u have every right for that, be strong like a man, live up ur interests n go for them.
With all my best wishes.GOOD LUCK...

Answer 2

i think that losing someone you have deeply loved is very hard and it will require alot of time to heal a wound that deep. i know everyone hates to hear it but things do get better. sure not for a very very long time but they do eventually. try to stay on the positive side of life. try to find the beauty of life even though there is only pain and darkness. never stop hoping and believeing. be strong and good things come to those who wait. try to keepy your mind off her and do some more stuff for yourself. take some you time and do something you truley enjoy. hope you feel better! if u need to talk anytime im here.

Answer 3

hmmmmm... sad to hear about ur condition..but at the same time, feel there is no point pining for an unworthy person. i will not say, forget her, but atleast think of the way she has dumped u, that too for another man...she has played with ur respect and love..dont waste urself on a person in whose life u were never a priority....friend, it will take time no doubt, but i can say, that nothing in this world is impossible..no one lives or dies for anyone..all have to live for themselves at some point...The only person i feel concerned and sorry is ur kid..for in such situations children are the silent and innocent sufferers..

always remember, never think,cry, brood and pine for someone in whose life u were always an optional and never a priority............all the best

Answer 4

Hy man how you say that your heart is broken. If thats then how you are living. You are like a suspesious person that living with broken heart. I don't understanding you that how your heart is broken because you are just in the stage. Don't care yar say him that what she thought about you. Show him that you can also live without him and prove it. Some times its happening with in life and we have to suffering for their. But it is not the solution that we sit and think for that ever. You have to prove that You are the person that sacrifice for ever and that is the way of life.

Answer 5

so sorry for your pain, it is hard to see the object of our love with another, life doesn't mean we will never be hurt, or suffer heartache. there will be some times in our lives that are difficult, and hard to understand. sometimes we just have to accept what has happened, because if we don't we can never start to heal. there are places in life that hurt us, that we didn't plan, and we certinly can't control others.focus on god, ask god for help, because no one else can.good luck my friend.

Answer 6

Very sad. But there are always many roads if you start your jounery. What has happen has happened. Look for the brighter tommorrow. May be you may find some one, Who will love you more than your first wife.

Answer 7

its a very difficult way to feel. THe best way I got over it was to keep on living life think of the positives in your life and what you have to live for. try to meet someone new but dont jump into a relationship cause your hurt. take your time meet people and have fun. Theres always tommorow. good luck!!!

Answer 8

by some potential so some distance, i've got not at all had my heart broken, i've got consistently completed the middle breaking...this is such as you mentioned each and every so often worse for me reason I even tend to experience mega responsible and stuff....my final boyfriend thoroughly fell aside as quickly as I broke up with him, he did no longer wanna enable me go, so as that replaced into complicated to handle.... :)

Answer 9

sad, its past now.u have to start afresh again. it takes time to forget someone u love so much but when she can do it you should also try to leave the past.shift the house, change the surroundings and u feel better.meet ur friends.take it as another chance to be a bachelor.

Answer 10

soooooooooo sad!!! As ur wife went with one person then i think u should move on with another life partner & then share ur sadness with ur 2nd life partner,
not with a net frnd they might make fun out of u!!!!!!!!! Dear!!!!!