My live-in boyfriend and I aren't having sex. Not by choice, either. He is always saying 'I'm too tired'. He says he wants me, but nothing is happening lately. NOTHING. I don't know what to do. Anyone have any ideas?
2007-01-06 19:06:08 · 16 answers · asked by Courtney 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He takes Viagra.
2007-01-06 19:09:24 · update #1
He gets pissed off if I masterbate in bed. He tells me 'that is my job', but yet it doesn't happen! I know he isn't getting it anywhere else, and I know he loves me.
2007-01-06 19:10:49 · update #2
First of all, it doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating, there could be lots of other reasons...he could be suffering from depression, or some kind of sexual disfunction, there could be other emotional, personal, or health issues involved. He might be struggling with other issues that you don't know about. He probably feels badly about it too...but can't seem to resolve whatever issue it is that's causing the problem. I don't have any solutions other than talking to him...let him know how you feel but be careful, because he probably already feels badly about it...you don't want to put him on a guilt-trip or make him feel inadequate..because he probably already feels that way. Ask him about what he would like to do...what turns him on...maybe he'd like to try some new things...maybe he's feeling bored, not due to any fault of yours...maybe do some out-of-the ordinary stuff. I dunno...good luck.
2007-01-06 19:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Arghhh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's always been this way, you are definitely sexually incompatible, and there's not much hope of it changing, although you can try counseling, but this is a difficult issue to overcome, unless the relationship is so good in other ways that the lack of sex is acceptable. If this is sudden, and he really does want to be with you as he says, then he really should go see a doctor to find out what's going on. He may have a hormone imbalance or anxiety problems or even cancer (not to scare you, but to make him aware) or maybe he just needs an extra boost once in a while, like Viagra. Talk to your guy and see what he thinks.
2007-01-06 19:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds almost like my situation. Maybe he is too tired, but he could want you to come on to him. Or maybe there is a deeper problem. Maybe try talking to him and see if there is something else going on.
2007-01-06 19:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masterbate in bed beside him, get all into and tell him if hes too tired to pleasure you then you'll just have to do it yourself!
2007-01-06 19:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by ishybug03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to lay off the viagra...and you need SEX! And make him listen this time ^_^
2007-01-06 19:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him see a doctor, maybe he needs Viagra.
2007-01-06 19:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could be a bad sign. how is your hygiene habits or attitude. i am not saying that you have a problem in those areas but i don't know you so you never know. anyway, not to be negative, but he could be into someone else, or he could just simply be depressed or stressed out.
2007-01-06 19:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. create an ambience - candles, music u know... open the door wearing a thong. in a summ - create an oppurtinity
2. get him aroused by sending sexual messages on to his cell/im/email while at work.
3, watch porn together
4. rape him
5 he's cheating you gotta split
2007-01-06 19:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should take a day off of work so he won't be tired and then do it then.
2007-01-06 19:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is there is something bothering him, or just a lot of stress. Try talking to him about the issue, see what he says.
2007-01-06 19:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋