How can i cultivate charisma?

Question

Im 19 still a virgin and i been reading that girls like guys who are charismatic. So how can such an uncharismatic guy like myself become more charismatic.

Answer 1

charisma comes with natural action. here was what i have to say. how do you act around your friends? do you act the same around her? treat her like she is a gem but at the same time feel comfortable with her like you feel around your friends. then the charisma will come naturally.

Answer 2

For starters, begin doing reality checks on your level of charisma. Reframe how you see yourself. If you're "uncharismatic" (which probably isn't even a word) and just _trying_ to be charismatic, it'll never work, because you'll just come off as fake. Find a walk you like, and make it how you walk. Make your voice deeper. Deeper. DEEEEEPERRRRR. Channel Barry White for a moment. And stop expecting perfection -- second-guessing yourself (even if you screwed up) will only make you gawky and stuttery. Nine times out of ten, screwing up is just a chance to learn something (like how to make a joke when you accidentally mix up two words to make an amusing, nonsensical sentence). The other time, just fix your problem and move on.

Find a good cologne, and use it sparingly. Smile when you feel like smiling (not to be polite... when you really feel happy, smile). Watch how the cool guys act around women and their friends, how they talk, how they move (slow, controlled, and with purpose), and use the parts that you like, make them a part of you. When you walk, lead with your hips, lift your chest, stand tall and be known as a real man.

And never tell anyone you're a virgin. In men, this'll get endless teasing (pay attention to teasing; women like it). In women, mention your virginity will get "Awww," which translates into, "You're such a cute little BOY. When you grow up, maybe some girl will take pity and deflower you." This attitude will make them, ahem, unlikely to stick their tongues down your throat.

Don't ever be afraid to touch a woman. But when you do, let it be something you really want to do. If you're talking to her, and she's looking into your eyes, she might just want it. And if she doesn't, it isn't necessarily that she hates it (you'll know when that's the case), but possibly that she's not warmed up enough yet.

A man is a light switch. An erection can pop up like a Jedi's lightsaber, ready to throw down at a moment's notice. A woman is more like a volume nob.

When you first begin to turn on the charm with a joke, a tease, a story about something fun you did last week, the volume is a gentle murmur inside her. As you dial up the fun, her eyes begin to sparkle, you and she begin to relax into some fun touches (if it feels creepy to you, it'll probably feel creepy to her), and she's giggling, the volume is going up.

As you kiss her, someplace private (the area where you're at... but I like the way you think), the volume begins to turn up at a slightly higher rate. If you begin to take off a piece of her clothing and she says, "not yet," she's just not turned up enough yet. So get to turning. Take two steps forward, then take one step back.

Let her anticipate. Never let her know what you'll do next until you're actually doing it (not yet, but I like the way you think). Once she's naked in your bed, touch her, kiss her, make her feel like she's the only woman on Earth. And use protection.

When the date ends (possibly the next morning), tell her to call you right as you're parting (when she's walking out the door, but again, I like your positive attitude).

Give all women you're interested in the gift of missing you. They'll start to wonder what it is you're doing when you're not near them... and they'll start wanting to participate. Be fun, be unpredictable, take charge and be THE MAN.

Go get 'em, cowboy. And don't ever let 'em throw ya.

Answer 3

Charisma is a quality that one is born with.Every one cannot have charisma.But with great effort you can cultivate it.For example: leadership: Most leaders have it in them.But if you do not have it it is difficult to get it but if you try relentlessly by training yourself and acquiring knowledge you can succeed.