recently i lost my wife and i want to develop my dughter without hurting her kindly advice me your valuable suggestions are required thanks
2007-01-06 18:29:47 · 10 answers · asked by Ratnam S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My heart goes out to you and your daughter. I am sorry for your lost. Don't worry so much, you will do fine. I remember when my son was born, I didn't know how to play with him. I look back and laugh. I learned about trucks, mud, army men, speedo and so much more. You learn these things and all the things that are needed to raise your child by trial and error.
You and your daughter will find the way together. Know that and Trust that.
Don't be afraid to talk about mom, (she will be.) she wont want to hurt you or cause you pain, she needs to know its OK.
So share with your daughter and this will give her the security and trust she needs from you. Make her a part of the decisions about mom things and stuff and decisions mom would have made. You will bond and you will built a strong relationship that will help guide you though her development.
2007-01-06 19:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant develop your kids without hurting it. Sometimes you have to be hard for and there are times where you need be gentle on her. Do you know how butterfly become a butterfly. Butterfly have to struggle to get out of "old body". The reason for the struggle is to pump blood to all the wings and other part of the body so they can start flying. My English is not that good, but I hope you get what I;m trying to say.
2007-01-06 19:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Adams A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single dad of 2 boys. Their mother gave up her rights to them 15 years ago. they are now 17 and 20. I know it hard raiseing a child by yourself, however it can be done just take it one day at a time. ohh and get ready for the teen years. I don't know anything about girls except watch out when they turn 14 yrs old the boys come calling. good luck.
2007-01-06 18:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you enlist the help of other family members.
I'd also suggest that you try not to be all things to her. In effect, you can't be her surrogate mother and if you just be a father to her and do your best to fill that role then that's the best you can do. Even if she's very young, your daughter will likely understand that and appreciate it. Also, I think that you can't shield your daughter from the hurt of losing a mother, but you can help her cope with it.
Best of Luck
2007-01-06 19:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by D.A.L. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm the youngest out of four three boys n me we lost our mother when i was six and my dad was great giving the fact that I'm really tomboyish but other than that i really needed my mother growing up and that's just something your daughter will deal with i know it sounds harsh but it happens there are days were one just lets go but tI'mes when one needs that mother there and my advise to you is to be the best father you could be cause in the end i love my dad and my brothers im 21 now and i appreciate everything the ever did and do for me don't worry much about your baby girl she will find her advise i always borrowed my best friends mom and it helped good luck and sorry for your loss best of luck and may god be with you .
2007-01-06 19:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 05:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by arrocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how a real man treats a special lady in his life and tell her you can not teach her how to be a lady but you can show her how they are treated. I am in the same situation vice - versa! Good Luck
2007-01-06 18:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by ljjmjd3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a female you trust for advice, someone that knows the child and can even talk to her when she needs a girl to girl talk.
2007-01-06 18:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would sugest,to ask the girls in your family,or your wifes family,to try and be close to your daughter.so when she need that girl to girl talk,she has someone she trust.if thats no posible.ask a friend,i am sure that they will help you out on it.
2007-01-06 19:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get you mother to help or sister if you have one.
2007-01-06 18:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋