Can I be a gay...??

Question

I`m straight and I have a friend who is a gay.
We have been friends for more than 8 years.

One day, he asked me to do a sexual intercouse with him. I refuse him politely. he told me that he`s understand, and he never asked me anymore.

but, yesterday, he asked me again. He promise me this will be the first and the last time. and he also told me it`s ok if I can`t do it with him. I can`t refuse or reject him again, because he`s a good friend, and he helped me a lot. and I never give him a serious help.

If I do it with him, will i be a gay?

Answer 1

So You want to give your body to him as a favor; I wouldn't do it. I think he likes you and would want more from you than just sex. It's like he's trying to forge a relationship with you.

Answer 2

Well if you say you "can't refuse or reject him again", then you are having second thoughts about your sexuality. However, this doesn't mean that you're gay. But if the only reason that you ARE having sex with him is because he's been a good friend and you want to "help" him, then don't. I do not see how this is helping him. If you do actually do it with him, this means that you have had an "experience", and depending on how you feel afterwards will tell you if you are gay or not. If you enjoyed it, chances are that you are, but you have to be the judge of this.

Answer 3

first of all thanks for refusing him politely the first time and continue to being friends with him, instead of hurting him.

it may sound that he doesn't respect you or your friendship for asking you the second time after you have politely told him no the first time, but he probably trusts you more than anything. a lot of people do certain things because that's all they know, and if they knew any better, they would do that better thing.

you shouldn't compromise yourself or belief just because he's been there for you before. if he's a true friend, he wouldn't ask you for anything in return for the kindness that he's shown you. yes, of course, you CAN and SHOULD refuse him again, unless you want to.

it really depends on what you do with him. in my book, the only way that would make you gay is if you desire/touch/suck another man's organ.

Answer 4

No, you would not become gay. People are born with their sexual orientation. Therefore, you were born straight and your friend was born gay. With this in mind, your friend should respect the fact that you are straight and are not interested or physically attracted to men or the idea of sex with another man. It is time your friend found another gay man to have sex with, since he is so determined to have sex with someone. Pressuring you (a straight man) to have sex with him, is just unacceptable. Please don't feel like you would be hurting your friend by not giving in to his desires. By doing this you would be hurting your friend and yourself. I hope you know that this type of relationship is not possible. It just can't go anywhere, because you are straight and he is gay. In the end, I think it would jeopardize your friendship. Explain all of this to your friend and he should understand.

Answer 5

Don't worry you can't be gay. Homosexuality is actually conditioned during one's childhood years so your sexual orientation now can hardly be changed.

Just understand your friend. That only shows that you're terribly handsome and sexy to him. Will you deprive your friend's greatest desire? Sex is only a simple thing you can offer. Yuo've been friends for long so you know him very well. Real friends feel for each other's needs.

Answer 6

if you don't want to let him know, cuz if he is really a good friend then he would know that you are not gay and he doesnt want to do any sexual intercouse with him, and not ask you again, so he would'nt traumatize his good friend for life

Answer 7

if you have sex with a guy, that does not make you gay. However, if you dont want to, you dont have to. Of course, if you dont mind, and want to have sex with him for him, than by all means do; just know that you wont turn gay just from having sex. If you are straight now you will always be straight.

Answer 8

If you don`t want to don`t,if he don`t understand hes not your friend,if you do it and like it perhaps you best think of your sexuality but i say your just trying to keep a friend and this is not friendship if he keeps asking and your strait

Answer 9

no but after you do if you do and you have filling for him im bi but haveint had sex yet but my sister says it might help me under stand if im gay or not just use a condom if you do have fillings for him tell him and date or date first and see if it works ok good luck

Answer 10

If you enjoy it, you might be? Or you could become bisexual?

Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

Do I like girls as friends?
Do I like guys as friends?
Do I like girls more than friends?
Do I like guys more than friends?
Could I maybe like both more than friends?

If yes to any with guys, than perhaps you could be than?