a divorcee ( age group 25-30) resist/ avoid his/her physical urge(sex life) to almost say 2 years......what they should do?
Sex is the strongest urge like Food! You can't resist or avoid for long. same time, understand the situation, that its a end of their once happy marital life, and probably they don't want to take the hasty decisions in any rush. But the need / urge still remains!!!
pay for sex if they don't find the partner/friend for long,
Pay for sex if they don't have the partner at that moment,
Pay for sex if they don't intend to re-marry ,
how do they satisfy their need?
One can self -help with their own hands, but that is not real satisfying as the true companion / partner. Its not always sex, but if its emotionaly connected, sex becomes love.
Having sex with other person ( possibly) makes them feel guilty, down in self esteem, or simply put what should all the divorcee do than?
2007-01-06 17:56:23 · 7 answers · asked by Dig J 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Man is this a loaded question or what?!
I don't know that anyone can have the answer you are looking for. This is something you need to answer for yourself. You need to examine your own morals and ideals and decide for yourself how to proceed.
I am actually in a similar situation...27 years old, recently divorced, sometimes desirous of sexual intimacy. For myself I have decided that sex with strangers is not an option. I am confident that I will one day be in a loving intimate relationship with a man, and I don't want my body to be corrupted when I find him. God forbid I get a STD or something whilest I am satisfying my carnal desires with a temporary lover!
Oh yah, and pleeeease don't pay for sex! For the love of God! Maybe you could go on Yahoo personals or something to try to meet someone nice.
Good luck!
2007-01-06 19:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Uebermaedchen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go get some sex, in whatever way you want to try, just be safe. But if you're looking for a new serious long term relationship, try to wait a while and see if you two are compatible even on a non-sexual relationship. I jumped into a relationship and had all the sex I could get and thought this is it and jumped into commitment only to find out later, when the sex wore out, that our personalities didn't match. If you've just had a divorce chances are you're not looking for another long term thing. There's a lot of fun to be had with anonymous unattached casual sex so go to some dating site because hot prostitutes are way over priced. Theres enough hot chicks looking for the same thing you are right now. Good Luck.
2007-01-07 20:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by charlie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First keep in mind that sex unlike air food or water is not a need but a want . Although it is easy to forget that fact . We are bombarded by ads and televiision as well as movies and music that try to instill into us that if we dont have sex on a daily basis that we all will turn into stone . The answer to this question is inside of you and youur ability of rational thinking . Dont let someone else tell you what you NEED . Consider it a time for self discovery . Good luck
2007-01-06 19:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Peace of Mind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it the need for sex or the need for having somebody close to you? Is it the satisfaction of a physical urge (which is completely normal and natural) or the satisfaction of an emotional need? Would you fall into the trap that sex cannot be just physical?
If it's a physical urge, i'd go for it. Just set the rules straight. Just sex. And keep your heart locked away, just in case you're one of those people who thinks sex can turn into love.
2007-01-07 03:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are strange creatures, we like to claim that we are the smartest and the most evolved animals of the animal kingdom. I think we are the dumbest animals the reason being we worry about thing that don't matter materialism, sex, education, etc...
What I am getting at is most animals have sex to procreate, marriage is just another way to attempt to control you and it is failing miserably. Find a girl you think would be a good mother, have sex with her and possibly have kids with her, and move on.
2007-01-07 00:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee slow down there..you dont need to pay for sex just find a f*ck buddy thats it! you shouldnt feel guilty for pleasuring yourself its natural right..so lets make this less complicated get your needs met the best way you feel you can and in the way that you feel least guilty and be sexually happy..you are no longer in a relationship so go hang out in a club, bar, or something like that find some other single people and let it happen simple
2007-01-06 18:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons not to have sex.
- Religious committments/preferences
-Concern for disease
- Unwanted pregnancy
- Bonding with someone who you don;t want to bond with
- more...
The preference is up to you, however, I personally enjoy my monogomous life. If is felt a committment toward someone, I think I would.
Everyone has a different drive, so there is not a one-size-fits-all answer.
2007-01-06 18:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋