I am due to get married soon and sometimes i feel so excited about it and other times I don't. My fiancee is a great man but jus like any other man he can be a @ss at times. I know I cant expect him to be perfect but we are great for each other in many ways.
But I want to know what are some others disappointments after marriage and if you feel the dissapointments are worth the risk?
2007-01-06 17:52:24 · 11 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends, if you compliment each other, and are good together, and your really ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER, AND YOUR IN LOVE... the rest will fallow.
Awww but isn't LOVE always a RISK?? Love/Life is not a guarantee!
You will learn to take the good and the bad that's what marriage is.
2007-01-06 18:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be problems in any relationship. Living with another human being is difficult at time. But marriage problem solving is a process and nothing can be solved immediately or at least most issues that are "large". However, try to solve slowly over a period of time and don't give up like alot of couples do. It is so easy to just throw in the towel. Marriage has peaks and valleys....just like life. Savour the good times and work on the bad times with maturity and calmness. Good Luck.
2007-01-06 18:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by ja m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what you are feeling is quite normal and to be expected. It is called "marriage jitters." Another term you might phrase it as would be "cold feet." Everybody faces the exact same thoughts and feelings prior to getting married and it's ok. My marriage on the other hand has its ups and downs just as any relationship. My husband and I have been married over four years now and neither one of us can stand crowds, much less the fact that whenever my family has a party, they feel as though they have to invite the whole family and friends as well, meanwhile my husband and I are being ignored the whole time and seldom spoken to. Both of us totally despise our families as well as our in-laws because they always feel like they call the shots and make all the rules up to and including raising our son. My parents took him to lanier to see lights knowing we wanted to take him ourselves and knowing that we also told them no, instead they decieved us and said they went to Stone Mtn to see lights and kept it from us til Christmas Eve. We were hurt!!! Now they want to take him to a monster truck show and he is three, almost four. They said they are going to take him whether we like it or not and we don't know what to do about any of this. It was also mentioned that they were taking him to Idaho this year for Christmas with or without our permission. I am betting they will and honestly I hope they do try it cause they will be charged will child aduption. So, these are things you must prepare yourself for in a marriage. I'm not saying don't get married, however I'm telling you not to let yall's family come in between your marriage, much less them dictating to you about raising your children. Marriage is not easy and it does like I have said before has it's ups and downs.
2007-01-06 18:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to ask the lord if this man is right for you. always involve him in any relationship that you have. second if this is a relationship that god approves of than it will be very hard. i have been married for 3 yrs this year and it has been very hard but it is hard work please don't enter into this marriage lightly!!!!!! make sure that you put the lord front and center and make sure that you are equally yoked with this man or it will be even harder make sure if fears the lord as well. when i say that its hard work that means that you have to change some things and he also has to change and a good thing would be Christen marriage counseling before you even have problems this will help lay a foundation. may god bless this union!!!!
2007-01-06 18:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by cosmo26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go into the marriage with lower expectations of your spouse.No one is perfect.Some times young couples go into marriage thinking it is going to be all a fairy tale.Well life is not a fairy tale.Some times you will laugh some times you will cry.Some times both will cry together.Life has its ups and downs.
Marriage is a risk.You will have good years,and bad years.That's life.
Some times we are not all up too pare . It works both ways every one is going to have there good moments and bad moments.You just have to think about can I tolerate him when he is a ***? If you cant then marriage is not worth the risk.After all marriage is a life time commitment.
2007-01-06 19:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let the negatives over power the positives. That will NOT be as easy as it sounds. We get so caught up in life, that we forget to live.........AND ENJOY!
NEVER take each other for granted. RESPECT each other. Keep the communication line OPEN at all times.
If you fall into the slump, there will be many 'dissappointments'
and it will soon NOT "be worth the risk"
2007-01-06 19:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappointment....that I didn't follow my instinct, and put the marriage off for a year or so. Nothing to loose by staying engaged just a little bit longer. Take the time to evaluate your concerns, why be in a rush?
2007-01-06 18:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "disappointments" or ups and downs. depend on the couple in the marriage as to how to deal with them...again that's up to the individual couple. And whether strangers on a message board feel they are worth the risk really doesn't matter...again it is up to the individual couple. No one else can think for you or make your life decisions for you. YOU have to grow up and do those things for yourself.
2007-01-06 18:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh ... umm thats marriage for you. Its complete of dissapointments and chuffed cases. sure, dissapointments is nicely well worth the threat. Its nicely worth having an complete life pal. in spite of each of the dumb, outragous, heartbreaking issues mine has performed, I say its nevertheless nicely worth it. i change into gazing something on the well being channel tonight, about this woman who's husband had gotten into an coincidence, and he had a very very minor mind damage, so minor it did not take position on any scans, yet his personalilty replaced. He feels no emotion now. In different words, he's not a similar guy she married, yet yet she is with him. It made me experience extra grateful for my husband, and to not take his personality or who he's with none interest.
2016-12-01 22:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by northcut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has its ups and downs, communication is a must. one thing that works for me is the fact that we do not spend hours in front of the TV. we usually get a movie or 2 for the weekend. it is worth the risk. take it serious and dont quit to fast.
2007-01-06 17:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Devil Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋