I just found out I'm pregnant! Help?

Question

I'm 21, This will me my first baby. I'm excited and very afraid at the same time. I don't know what to expect. I terrified of my boobs getting any bigger than they already are! I feel very forgetful (like a space cadet).

Just want to know if anyone else is going (or has gone) what I'm going through right now and how you handled it. Any (serious) advice would help.

Thanks much!

Answer 1

I am also 21 and just found out i was pregnant (for the first time) oct. 30. it is very scary at first and exciting...but then as the initial shock wears off (i also felt that, too) it gets a little easier. your breasts may or may not get bigger, but even if they do, make sure you remember that they will go back down after the baby is born. also, you will feel very "blonde", parsay, during your pregnancy. i think it must have something to do with all the chemicals and horomones are all out of wack in your body. i will be walking in the living room looking for something...stop...and just be like "duuuhh"! so girl, calm down, relax, and will be one of the greatest experiences ever...except for the morning sickness, and that kinda sucks! good luck, and if you need anything, feel free to email me!

Answer 2

I also recommend The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy, in addition to What to Expect When You're Expecting.

Yes, I had to buy bigger bras. And yes, I was a space cadet also. All normal.

I don't recommend researching too much on the internet. Some of the wacko stuff will freak you out. See a doctor, read (at least) the two books above, and take care

Answer 3

I went through something similar, but even harder. I found out I was prengnant when I went into labor. Scary huh? Anway, it was a tough adjustment, especially with no warning, but it's just something that comes naturally. Yeah I still have some space cadet moments. I'm constantly leaving things places and leaving things on top of the car when we drive away, but I'm getting better. I'm sure you'll be fine. You just have to try to stay calm and keep a level head about things or youll go crazy.

Answer 4

Being pregnant for the first time, is a great experience. Enjoy all of it and takes lots of pictures and journal your whole experience. There will be times when you are big, depressed, and afraid. But, in the end it is all worth it. Don't wait to the last minute to make arrangements, put away some extra money now, look for sales and coupons for the stuff you will need. It comes really fast and you want to be prepared. I was only 18 when I got pregnant for the first time and I grew up really fast. I worked two jobs, saved money, bargained shopped and enjoyed the whole experience. Now, 12 years later I am married to a great guy, financially stable, and have a great son who is smart, cute, and my whole world. Good luck and enjoy it.............

Take good care of yourself.............

Answer 5

i was only 18 when we had our first baby- but we were already married for over a year- and i read what to expect when you're expecting and yes, forgetfullness is one of the perks to being pregnant! even clumsiness and being really flatulenty. just enjoy all you can while you're pregnant! dont be scared about anything. the human race keeps going on and on because having a baby is completely natural and complications are rare. good luck!

Answer 6

your boobs will get bigger, but they go back to normal. at least mine did. i also felt kinda spacey! i know it's scary, but so wonderful! i had morning sickness (more like all day sickness) for the first couple of months, but after that i loved being pregnant. i felt so cute and proud. it is so exciting. i had a book that i think was called " your pregnancy: week by week". something like that. anyway it was very helpful. it tells you all about what's going on with the baby and you each week of your pregancy. good luck and congrats!!

Answer 7

Congratulations. Your fear and excitement show you are paying attention!

I remember my brain got so drained in my first pregnancy that I once turned to my husband in the car and said "I went to that gas station once."

Even more amazing was that when we prepared to leave the hospital, we were kinda shocked to realize the baby was coming home with us. All the preparation had gone into getting him born. Bringing him home was amazing.

I find that "What to Expect When You're Expecting" is a lousy lousy book because it's all about not parenting, about detaching from your kids. The authors really have a strange attitude about mothering.

Dr. Sears writes books about how to let the natural bonding with your child occur, so you can provide the mothering your child needs. Human milk on demand for 2 - 5 years is necessary for optimal development - and nursing is wonderful for mom and baby and is an irreplacable mothering tool.

More than ten hours of separation a week from mommy is devastating to infants and toddlers. The research has been showing this for 50 years - day care - even from daddy or grandma - damages the baby emotionally, intellectually, socially, and phsyically.

Babies only form connections in their brain cells when babies are being held. Therefore, get a sling, ditch the stroller, swing, and crib and prepare to hold your child, sleep with your child, live at the pace of a child. It will be thrilling and wonderful. The rewards of mothering an infant/toddler in the way she/he evolved to require mothering are absolutely immense and will pay in your baby's desire to please you, your baby's iq and physical health, your baby's ability to attach to others, your baby's ability to trust that the world is a good place and wants her to be happy (day care babies don't learn that and the damage caused is horrific.)

I handled my anxiety by getting informed and getting strong to stand up to a society that wanted me to detach from my baby right away - stick in that bottle, dump 'em in day care, imprison 'em in a crib screaming at night, push 'em around at more than arm's length in a stroller. ugh ugh ugh.

Answer 8

First baby - congrats! For me, it really helped to read the book what to expect when your expecting. It just had all the info I needed to start thinking baby. At first I was overwhelmed with how much I had to learn, but the book helped me to relax. Maybe it will help you. You can probably find it used for a good price at used bookstores.

Answer 9

I compeltely agree with Amy :) That book is one wonderful book! Read it...u'll love it. Its both informative and reassuring.
Yeah honey... everything's gonna change. You should make up your mind...its a great thing that you'll be able to nurture and grow a living being in you. Its the world's best and greatest reward :)
Well I did give my low-waist slim fit jeans to my friend ;)) and all those pretty cute teeny hand bags..now I carry one huge bag (which looks like as if I am on a trip). But I love it and you'll love it too :)
Believe me. Congratulations!!!

Answer 10

o hun your in for some real changes, you will forget your head most days, your boobs will get bigger either before but definatly after baby, your body will baloon no way of getting around it but think of all the attention...and as for emotions you will cry over stupid comercials, people will say things to you that you would normaly blow off but durring pregnancy you will read into it to much.. as for your s/o b/f well god help the men lol there in for a real surprise...lol..when i was pregnant with my son i was mean and cruel, with my girls i would cry over everything and i mean everything...good luck read lots of books, magazines, and just have fun, your doctor is there to make sure everythings ok..