my girlfriend and i just found out that she is pregnant i not really keen on the idea of having a abortion but she is pretty set on the idea just though where i stand on the whole thing i thought being a couple yo suppose to share some decisions expescially about this ne way should i let it go or try to change her mind but i dont wantt o loose her in the process
2007-01-06 17:25:17 · 15 answers · asked by maddog4787 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Check with you're state law. Get a lawyer and talk to your parents and her parents about it! You maybe able to stop her from doing this and no top of it get custody of the baby once it's born! If you have to make an agreement with her and tell her, she doesnt have to do anything with the child if she doesnt want to, that includes child support! Yes as I am sad to sat this, but there are some women out there that can have children, yet take it for granted and so on and so on.......You may loser her either way, cuz if the guilt of her going thro with it lays on you, you'll never forgive her and you'l leave her in the end most likely..................
Good Luck, and I hope it works out for you....as I do NOT believe in aborting a pregnancy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-06 18:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 13:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got 50% cause we went half so we get half and we gone have 2 be there 100% of the time if she does have the baby so you`ll just have 2 try and persuade her a little more even if it her baby is she willing 2 raise it on her own with out child support or is she willing to give up her big relationship with her friends and maybe family to raise a baby explain the facts and she may have to think twice
2007-01-06 17:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by crhisanderson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't let it go. Your son or daughter's life is at stake, and you are the only one who seems to care about that right now.
And, statistically speaking, most relationships break up after abortion. You will have a better chance of lasting as a couple if you allow your baby to live.
When you talk to her about this, make sure that you are gentle and loving. You don't want her to get angry at you and abort your child out of spite. Start off by saying how concerned you are about her, and tell her about some of the risks of abortion. Tell her that you love her and don't want to see her hurt. After she understands that you are concerned for her and not just the baby, you can bring up the baby and how you love the baby, too. Remember her that the baby is something beautiful that you created together. Reassure her that you will be there for them both.
Please look at this information and consider lovingly sharing some of it with her:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
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http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
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http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
2007-01-07 12:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
See if she will agree to go to a crisis pregnancy center. Most women who go and see an ultrasound of the baby inside of them decide to keep the baby. they would also be able to try to persuade her in ways that you probably wouldnt.
Also let her know how you feel. Get both sets of parents involved. And take responsibility for your actions. If you are serious enough to have sex and want to keep the baby, then propose, and go all the way. that way she knows that you will stick around. It is possible that she feels that you will leave her and she will be left to raise a child on her own.
If all else fails,it is possible to raise a lawsuit against her. It depends on what type of judge you get, but you can claim tha the child is half yours, and if you want to keep it, a judge may declare that she has to keep your child, then just turn it over to you after it is born.
Good Luck!
I'll be praying for you and your unborn baby
2007-01-06 18:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by techiegurrll88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously in a committed relationship, so I agree you should have a say in the matter, after all this is your child too. Please try to talk to her and make her see this point. Unfortunately the law is probably not on your side. Ask her why a baby - living breathing human being - should die because you two were not careful enough? She is probably scared, but guess what? Having a baby is scary no matter what situation you are in, but the reward in the end is truly wonderful!
2007-01-06 17:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to her and give reasons as to why you oppose abortion. The rest is up to her to decide. Whatever she decides, just support her decision, if you really do love her.
Remember, she is the one who will have to be carrying the child for 9 months and endure painful child delivery.
If you force her to carry the child and she isn't ready to go through pregnancy or become a mom, she will probably resent the child and YOU, especially. You never know.
2007-01-06 17:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to tell you this, but in most states the man has no say with what a woman does with her pregnancy. You can file a restraining order on her not to harm the unborn but in doing that you may just alienate her. My suggestion is for you both to go to counseling,
Also you do not state your ages if she is a minor then she will need a parent to sign for her to get the abortion.
Good luck
2007-01-06 17:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by hurricanemercedes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it's nice to hear of a guy who doesn't jump at the idea of abortion. But, the fact is that this pregnancy and ultimately this child is something that will forever change everything. If she doesn't want this baby, then do you want her to be the mother to your child? What if she goes through with it for your sake? You, and the child may be dealing with resentment issues.
Sorry to say, but you don't have much say i it.... her body, her choice.
2007-01-06 17:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing with my g/f, we decided to keep the baby. Just tell her you don't believe in it and even show her some pics of abortions. Do not consider RU 486 (bad). you may want to propose, because maybe she doesn't wnat the baby because she is afraid you will leave.
Good Luck man, I feel ya!!
2007-01-06 17:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋