She has re married and seems happy. We dated for a year when I looked down and discovered his ex wife name was still on his checking account. I flipped and told him he was crazy and to get her name off his account. She does his taxes and splits the refund with him. I think he could well afford to have someone else able to do his taxes. She comes to his house and visits with his kids from another marriage and borrows his vehicles to drive. When he told her he asked me to marry him, she cried and he renigged on the proposal. He discusses my personal business with her and expects me to be her friend. I dont really have anything against her, but my business is not hers. I wonder now how much she knows. I think he has his head in the past. We have dated now for 5 years and I think he has not moved on since his divorce. Maybe it is time for me to move on. He keeps talking about how much he has to do for her because of their kids who are now 18 and 16. Is it me?
2007-01-06 17:21:42 · 12 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it's you, I couldn't handle being in a relationship like that. I can see them being friends and even helping each other out, but for him to renege on a proposal because she got upset, that's another story. Her still being on his checking account would be a pain to me also. I can't help but wonder what her new hubby thinks about all this or if he knows. It really doesn't sound like you two are going anywhere, sounds like he's waiting on her to come back to him. SORRY
2007-01-06 17:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am giving you advice from what I would do. I would leave him and tell him to think about what he really wants. His relationship definetely needs to change. He can't have both of you and you are being disrespected. Sounds like she still has him wrapped around her finger and your being taken for a ride. After five years if he didn't marry me by now I would be out of there. Especially since he renigged on it. If she cried over that then there is something definetely off there. I would love myself more than him and take a long vacation till he pulls his head out of the orphace it is stuck in. You sound way to nice to put up with the crap. What drama.
2007-01-06 17:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by babygrlpls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you have wasted 5 years on this loser?? No, this isn't "you". It's ridiculous. OK, I've been divorced for 6 years now, and I talk to my former spouse, no hard feelings, one could say we're "friends" I guess. But neither one of us would have ever dreamed of to dictate what the other needs to do in their personal lives! (I have re-married since, and my ex has a g/f.) Your b/f has withdrawn his marriage proposal because of what his EX said?? You should have run right then and there, it is so out of line I can't even begin to tell you. Please, don't waste any more time, look for someone who has their priorities straight.
2007-01-06 17:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
from what you wrote, it seems the ex is still very much a part of your boyfriend's life. was it an amicable divorce? some people do remain on good terms after a divorce, especially if they have children together, and perhaps he wants you to be able to get along with her much like she's a member of his family (like a mother-in-law kind of presence). I get the impression that she will always be in the picture.
2007-01-06 17:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by gorochan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not you. there is definately something weird going on there. if i were you i'd get out of that mess before you are really stuck with him, like getting married or having a kid. if he has already been married twice that should tell you something. it doesn't sound like he is going to change for you, so don't stick around and be the one with egg on your face. good luck
2007-01-06 17:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by lynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you really must be firm with your man. Its okay for him to be nice to his ex because of the kids . But he should keep his mouth shut. Just my opinion.
2007-01-06 17:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by bandtarndt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run Fast! In his mind he still has a relationship with HER!
2007-01-06 17:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he still has feelings for her. Have you asked him that?
2007-01-06 18:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS ***. On the other hand 5 YEARS?, you must love punishment.
2007-01-06 17:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sparky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Maybe it is time for me to move on." WOW and it only took you FIVE YEARS to figure this out? Man you must be a GENIUS...(WWWWWWOOOOOOSSSSSSHHHHHHHH)
2007-01-06 18:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋