I know i am spoiled...its not something i am proud of...I keep losing friends because they think i am a brat.. Im sorry that i am...my parents buy me the finest but i dont ask them to. People just dont understand.....THey are mad that for christmas I got a volvo s40...my parents got it for me because they are like the safest cars and my classmates all have a little deal to never talk to me again and i just dont understand why. my counselor told me that i need to talk to people in my own social class and then these problems wont arise......please help me! what should i do!???
2007-01-06 17:01:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have to talk to them and ask them what really the problem is and why they're making a big deal on what you have. as a matter of fact they dont have the right to get mad at you coz you got volvo.its too shallow.they should be happy for you!true friends understand each other..maybe they're jealous coz you're getting stuff that you dont ask for..what you need too do dont brag what you have.if you're got some new stuff dont tell them,let them ask then you tell them humbly(though im not insinuating that you're bragging..ok?)..you're counselor is making a mistake by telling you to look friends in your own social class..friendship doesnt have classes..its either you're friends or not.you know what im saying?oh well..good luck ;)
2007-01-06 17:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥heartbreaker♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your friends aren't real. They won't even be happy for you for what you got. I hope you didn't brag about it though, because then you got what is expected. Don't run around telling people how rich you are, let them ask you and don't give them too much info, because they will hate you, i've seen it happen...not to me though, to someone else. Just ignore their remarks, make new friends, do what you love to do and you'll soon have it out of your head, it'll keep coming up but not as much.
2007-01-06 17:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by Amoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, IMHO, your counselor is a moron. Secondly, I have a hard time believing that your friends don't like you because you parents buy you stuff. They most likely don't like you because of the way you act around them. Take a good, long look at yourself and the way you behave. I think you'll find the answer there.
2007-01-06 17:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mike T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel and you don't sound like a brat to me..well,i think the reason why your classmates are straying away from you is partly due to jealousy..you have what they don't or can never afford..so what i think you can/should do is explain to them..don't be cocky or anything..smile and nod when you see your friends..try talking to them in a very nice and polite way..help then when they need anything..then they will begin to see you in a different light..i have friends who are really rich but they get along very well with other people who aren't as rich..so nothing's impossible..
good luck my dear =)
2007-01-06 17:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cecillia, learn to love yourself, to accept yourself as the truly great and wonderful person you are. Accept yourself without judgment. You are doing the best you can...always. As for your classmates, if they don't see the great person you are, then that's their loss. Sure they're jealous. Sure they're unhappy because you have something they want and can't have. But that's their issue, not yours. And if they make it so important to themselves that they can't relate to you, again it's their issue. If you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin, then you ar way ahead of the game. Those who are comfortable with themselves will recognize this in you...and will want to be your friend. You won't be interested in people who don't know themselves. They're not really very interesting anyway.
2007-01-06 17:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to reach out and be genuinely friendly to all people and you will be respected for that: most people will think nothing of you being spoiled if you act the opposite of a spoiled brat.
but don't go telling everybody about your car and material posessions, only talk about those if someone else bringst that up.
2007-01-06 17:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by ftmorgan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first. screw your friends. jelous ppl sucks big time.learn to do living like me, alone most of the time. u should be proud that your parents are kind, rich ect...
better, give me your car and i give u mine. by the way im driving
an old ice cream van.
2007-01-06 18:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
it really isn't your fault that your parents want you to drive a safe car, and people who really are your friends won't get jealous juz bcuz of that...
try changing your attitude towards some things & when ppl see major change for good in you, they'll want to be your friend... it's simple...
good luck..! ^-*
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2007-01-06 17:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Serenity C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk about the things you have and find new friends . I know it sucks but you don't have a choice now
2007-01-06 17:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by wambo6767 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait
2007-01-06 17:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by killer 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋