Was I right to do this?

Question

My g/f and I have been dating for 8 months now. She is 13 weeks pregnant (we have not been to the OB yet). We got in the biggest fight ever last night, she left and slept in her car. She returned this morning and went to sleep in our room. Her sister came and picked her up but as she was leaving, she told me that she was bleeding and had stomach pain. That concerned me so I called around and found out that it was pretty serious. She refused to go to the hospita. So in order for me to get her into the hospital, I called her mom and told her EVERYTHING. My mom knows that she is pregnant and her mom had not. Was i wrong by telling her parents that. I was really concerned and scared for her life. She left me no choice. Now everything about our relationship is in shambles. Was I wrong or am I a good guy for getting her the help she needs?

Answer 1

Look, you did the right thing . . . even though you had a huge fight. My telling her parents to get her to the hospital because of the bleeding and stomach pain . . . they may assume that you've physically hurt her, so you clarified it to them telling them that she is pregnant.

You asked her and she refuses, you tried to persuade her friends and they refuses. Apparently, she doesn't care for you or the baby she is carry. Odds are she physically injured herself on purpose to cause a miscarriage . . .

By telling her parents everything, and asking them to get her to the hospital . . . you are also showing them how much you love her and her unborn child . . . she needs help or she and/or the unborn fetus will die.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have to be the rock in this relationship. You did the right thing and you really care for her and your unborn. Lots of guys wouldn't have done that. Don't worry about it, you were right. She will probably get over it. Just remember everything is hormonal right now and the littlest things can set her off. Have patience my friend and it will be worthwhile when that baby comes into the world.

Answer 3

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.

BUT DONT YOU KNOW, WHEN A WOMAN IS PREGNAT NOT TO HAVE AN ARGUMENT THAT COULD MAKE HER UPSET?

ON THE OTHER HAND, FEEL NO SHAME FOR TRYING TO GET HER SOME HELP SHE SO VERY MUCH NEEDS.

SHE DIDNT THINK WHEN SHE IS IN THE CONDITION OF CARRING A BABY TO GO SLEEP IN HER CAR.

IF SHE WAS BLEEDING WHY IN THE HELL DID SHE REFUSE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL?

I WOULD BE VERY CONCERN WHY WAS I BLEEDING.

Answer 4

You did the right thing. Even if you lose her as girlfriend, you thought about her safety and that of the pregnancy.

You acted like a man. Continue to make the right choices in life.

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Answer 5

I think you did the right thing. If something would have happened to her because u did nothing you would have never forgiven yourself. Hopefully in time she will see that too. Good Luck and God Bless You.

Answer 6

You did the right thing. You should both be spanked for not getting her into see a doctor before now.
I hope things work out for you both.

Answer 7

You were right. She is not showing a lot of maturity by hiding the pregnancy.

Answer 8

you were right, you can only hide the baby for about 9 months anyway and you were looking out for her health, plus your g/f will appreciate it and she knows you love her and you care, very good move!

Answer 9

I think you were right, shes pregant hormonal and upset. She needs that vioce of reality.

Answer 10

i think that u shouldn't have told her mother. You & your girlfriend are a team. wat is done between both of you & the secrets shared together, should be left there. you probably meant well but you should respect the wishes of your g/f.