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I just want to know if in this day & age teenage girls ask out boys? My daughters 14 & when I was in school over 25 years ago that just wasn't the thing to do, but I don't want to give her old fashion advice but when I was in school if a girl asked out a guy people would think she's desperate. One more Q if you're between 13 & 16 what's your curfew & is it still the same where boys are allowed out later than girls? Thanks

Let me just add that my daughter is very trustworthy & although I'm her mother she's an only child so at times I try to remember what it was like when I was 14 & we have a deal, I'm always honest with her so she's always honest with me.

Answer 1

I think that the guys should be doing the asking out BUT in my opinion I think a 14 year old is a WEEBIT young to date!! And when I was like 15ish my curfew was 10PM.. HOPE I HELPED :-D

Answer 2

I'm almost 18, but when I was around 13 and 14 none of the guys really had any courage to ask the girls out. A lot of the girls then were a tad more straight forward with there feelings and with the flirting. I don't see anything wrong with the girls asking guys out, I've only done it once and it was hard to do because it's so nerve wracking. A lot of guys actually like it because it shows confidence, and it's a good thing to do if the guy you like is too shy. There are things that I am old fashioned about though with dating like opening doors, etc. But not with asking out guys.

For my curfew normally it was around 11pm(this was at 14,15) and school days it might have been 9 or 8pm, but I rarely went out on school days. And if there was any special occasion that was later like a movie, concert, show downtown, etc. Then it would be longer if I would just tell them beforehand and have my cell phone with me.

Answer 3

No. It's pretty common for girls to ask out boys.

By law the curfew is different in every county. But my "parents law" said until I was 16 it was 10 or 11 (if they agreed with what I was doing for that long) and after, whenever. (But I graduated at 16 so most of the rules my parents had for me don't seem strict enough to most parents of 16 year olds...)

And I wanna say that it sounds like you have a good relationship with your daughter =). When I have kids, I'm hoping to have the same type of thing with them. All around honestly.

Answer 4

I am 16 and in 11th grade.

Girls don't usually ask out guys at my school. Usually they begin to talk to the guy, adding him to myspace or MSN and going to parties together. The guy will then ask the girl out later, 3 or 4 weeks after.

I don't have a curfew, because I don't go anywhere after school. I live in about 45 minutes away from town where everyone hangs out and its a waste of time to drive in for an hour or two. When I do go out after school I have to be home by 9.

On the weekend it depends on who I'm with and where we are going. My cousins and I are all really close, when I am with them my curfew is 2 am. When I am with a group of friends, going to dinner and a movie or something similar, it's 1 am. When I am with a small group or people my parents don't know too well it's 11. Guys and girls usually have similar curfews around here, since guys and girls hang out together as soon as one person has to be home the rest head home unless it's a large group.

Really it depends on your daughter. As long as she is home in time to do homework and be in bed at a decent time it's good. As for weekends, it depends on what she is doing. If she is going to a party, I'd say around 12 or 11. If she is just hanging out with friends 12 or 1 would be a good time. If she is on a date, with just one other person 11 sounds good.

Just remember, if she breaks curfew or her grades drop boost curfew up an hour or two. Be strict with curfews, and as she gets older extend them, and everyonce and a while extend it as a reward.

I wouldn't give her a set time to be home every night, go by an outing to outing basis.

Answer 5

Nobody will think she's desperate if she asks a guy out. It's perfectly normal these days.

I really don't have a curfew. My parents never had to set one. I don't like to be out too late. The latest I have ever been out is 1:15 am and I called and let my parents know.

I don't even date. I don't want to until I think I'm ready to get married. I want to focus on finishing Highschool and planning for my future, and I can't do that with the drama thst goes with dating.
I am 16 1/2.

Answer 6

Its pretty common nowadays for girls to ask out the boys... I am 21 now.. but when I was 13 14 15 curfew was usually 9, unless mom knew where I was, i.e. movies, friends house. 16 is was probably 10...

Answer 7

Whatever.Girls ask out guys all the time its no big deal.Not all guys have later curfew than girls.It really depends on the guys age and his parents.If I had a brother my age my parents would give me and him the same curfew.Some parents set different curfews for different people.When I'm out with just my friends(girls) my curfew is like 12 (im 13 1/2), but if im like with guys exceptionally if they're older it's earlier.

Answer 8

usually girls do not ask boys out unless it is sadie hawkins or soemthing. and i'm 14 and so ican not drive so my curfew would be whenever my parents picked me up or proabbaly about 11 if iwas wit hsomeone who could drive. and girls and boys should have the same curfews unless ones ofthem had a diffrwent curfew because of age like once they are 18 they candrive after 12

Answer 9

Hi, I'm 15 by the way. I personally do not ask boys out, I just think that is what they are supposed to do. I flirt and stuff and then they are the ones who have to make the move. In our school (South Africa) they do not ask you out as in:"will you go out with me?", you just become good friends and there is chemistry between you. And then you just go out to a movie or to a party or whatever. You are 'together' or going out when you have kissed. But hey, it's just how we do it. I'm allowed to talk to boys in the house, but we are not allowed to go into the bedroom. I must be home around 12 o'clock. Good luck!!

Answer 10

girls can ask out boys it perfectly fine because if they dont they wont know if a guy would ask them out and they would wonder "what if" for a long time (maybe the rest of their lives) my curfew was dependant on my grades, if i did my chores and if its a school night. if i did good with school and chores on a school night curfew to com in for the night was 9:00pm on weekend it was 12:00 am