My boyfriend and I live together with our three year old, Daisy. I came home from work at 9pm yesterday and nobody was home. The door was unlocked, lights were on, both stollers parked at the door. My boyfriend, Jason, doesn't have a car, the one car seat is in my car. Daisy has double ear infections. The bottom line is..there was no note! I straight lost my mind for an hour calling every number on ID and *69. When he (finally) came home, I got the verbal; beatdown for not trusting him. They were at his friend's house. Hey, I think I was supposed to be the mad one! @$%#!
2007-01-06 16:45:29 · 14 answers · asked by daisyjzmum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think you overreacted at all, and this should hopefully make sure he never does it again since he didn't realize you would be worried and upset. He should understand why you freaked - anyone would, not knowing where their 3 year old daughter was. Glad everything is okay :/ Oh, and as for those who say that it's a shame you don't trust him, you could trust him with your whole heart but it doesn't mean somebody couldn't get in the house and hurt the both of them, so I wouldn't even listen to those who say you didn't trust him because I don't think that's the case.
2007-01-06 16:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were worried and that's understandable.
He innocently went to a friend's and was doing nothing wrong.
It was miscommunication. Maybe you jumped all over him when he got home and he felt defensive, whatever.
You can now both learn from this. Hopefully,when presented with a conflict in a relationship it provides an opportunity to learn and grow TOGETHER.
You both learned that .....you are a caring momand girlfriend and he is capable of taking care of Daisy when you are working. Good for him.
So now what? You should both have cell phones.
And agree to leave notes for eachother next time. No harm done.
PS He shouldnt be giving you a "verbal beatdown" when he should appreciate that you were worried
PPS Diasy is a cute name for a girl. If I have a girl I want to name her the same.
Good luck. Go kiss and makeup.You both need to be super understanding of eachother. You both are doing your best.
2007-01-06 16:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't overreact. I also have a 3 year old, and I would have expected a note from my hubby in this situation. I'm with her all day and I call my husband at work to let him know if I'll be away at the time he gets home, so he doesn't worry. It's common courtesy.
(especially since she had an ear infection)!
2007-01-06 16:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were him, I'd feel sad that you have an obvious lack of trust. I mean, yes, too bad he wasn't thoughtful enough to leave a note. But not a good enough reason to get really mad unless he did something else to earn that reaction.
2007-01-06 16:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't overreact. Sick kid, unlocked house, lights on, no indication where they are. I'd be thinking kidnapped or serious emergency right away. So he finally shows back up at 10pm with sick kid in tow? What was he doing, drinking and smoking pot at his friends? I'd have a sh!t-fit.
For you to trust him, he's got to show some responsiblty for his activities and behavior.
2007-01-06 16:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right, completely. That is just unsafe.
I have learned that men do not worry like we do.
They just think that everything is always ok.
He doesn't understand your point of view, obviously.
You should have a talk about how what happened made you feel. And maybe he'll be more careful.
2007-01-06 16:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by LostVega$ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i may be piss too if somebody I hardly knew merely went and used my stuff. communicate on the doorstep brother and enable him comprehend the type you experience approximately this. If it does not provide up, next time she spends the night positioned a demonstration in the bathing room asserting to ask for permission previously employing something.
2016-11-27 01:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
?...it seems to me that you just wanted a note but where does the trust thing come in? do you not think he's capable of caring for your daughter?
2007-01-06 16:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by xxdelicious_l1psxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you overeacted. If you trust him with your daughter then why did you go off on him. Did you think he was out with a girl. Why did you go off ask yourself that.
2007-01-06 16:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be totally paniced, myself. Tell him it's not a matter of trust, but one of responsibility and consideration.
2007-01-06 16:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋