Can a 20 yr old male know he is ready for marriage?

Question

I'm in my early 30's, for some reason I attract this age and at this age I notice males want to settle down and marry, compared to mid-twenties and older. I usually push them away and say the are too young to know what they want. So again I'm in the same situation, and this time I want to say yes. Is it possible that a 20 yr old male can know he is ready for marriage? even though he is young and inexperienced?

Answer 1

I think it's possible that this is what he wants at that moment, and that he's very sincere at wanting it. But I also think that it is reasonable to say that within a few years, when his buddies are still going out with girls in their 20's, and he's stuck with an "old" woman, he will start feeling differently. (My friend's mom had been married to a much younger man for 15 years, he just left her a few months ago, because now that he's grown up he wants "family" and "kids", and she's of course too old to have them.) Just be careful, and be realistic.

Answer 2

It honestly depends on how mature he is and how much responsibility he currently has. My husband and I were married 5 years ago when he was 20 (and I was ...well, almost 20). My husband really stepped it up, got a great job, handles conflict well, and was ready to settle down.

Unfortunately, I think you'll probably run into issues with 20 year olds-- you'll probably do better with 25 year old. 25 year olds are out of college, have jobs, and will be working towards a house. 20 year olds...probably won't be ready for the commitment.

Don't worry about the age. Look at the person--is he a type you want to date? If he is, just work the "future" into the relationship--just find out what he's looking for. That way, you won't waste both of your time.

Hang in there! Mr. Right exists!

Answer 3

What experience you need for marriage?
Love, and if you have loved some one and been loved by some one special to you, there is nothing wrong in marriage.
There are other factors that are required to be studied for survival of life, like earning, daily support of spouse, family, children, etc. These factors keep changing, you may have a Job today may lose tomorrow, what explanation you can give for it?
But love remains till you die and should never be compromised for other things in marriage.
If one can imagine a goal of making family two can achieve it.
There is nothing wrong in marriage at any time even at 20 or 50 or even 70 as long as you love the person you are going to marry and think both can make a really good God's family.

Answer 4

The 20 year old men I knew didn't know they were ready to settle down...LOL. I am guessing you are a successful career woman right? That's probably WHY these 20 year olds want to "settle" down with you. They figure they won't have to be the "breadwinner" if "wifey" is already supplying the toast. For me I would tell a guy of twenty to continue with his education and to come back after he has a masters degree and can support me in the manner I plan on becoming accustomed to.

Answer 5

Hi..Yes he can but it definately depends on the person. I'm a male who got married at 20 after meeting my wife in australia who was 29 at the time online. She came to visit me and within a week and a half I knew I couldn't live without her. I left everything I knew behind moved to Australia in April, Proposed in June and Married in October all in the same year. We've now been married 8 wonderful years. It just depends on the maturity of the guy, does he constantly party with the boys? Or does he rather spend more time with you? Has he sacraficed a lot to be with you or wanting to be with you?

But there is never a need to rush marriage, except maybe in my case where I didn't have much choice if I wanted to stay in Australia to be with my wife. Good luck with it.

Answer 6

Being in their 20s, it is very easy to be infatuated with older women since they are experienced women. You bring in a rich experience to him and he wants to explore you sexually and may share love and comfort. If you have a child, it will shatter his bubble of all that he wanted to be with you as the responsibilities start to take precedence. Do you want him to leave you when added responsibilities pile up? You can speak to him, yet once you reach 35 and 40 years of age, he will be attracted to the same 30s or numbers much below as he grows older.
But if you want to have an affair, you can do so, just that commitments will have to fall in place if you continue to stick together for a longer time. That's the test you and he will go through.

Answer 7

Ask him :

1) If he is certain that he can support a family (no matter how big)

2) If he is willing to spend time and money for the well-being family

3) if he is going to be a responsible father/husband; if he will have a loyal and pleasant relationship with you (and perhaps children).

And last but not least, let your instinct guide you: can you trust this man to take care of you, and not run off and cheat?

Just put your faith for him into question as well, then it will be an easier matter to resolve.

Answer 8

when you were 20 were you? I think back and i know that i was married to a guy that wouldn't quit until we got married. i was only 3 yrs older than him. we were married about 4 or 5 yrs and he came home from work one day and told me that he wanted to sow his wild oats? i was devastated to say the least. He said he loved me and i was the perfect wife that he had no complaints except that he never got to go out and live it up. He is my ex. You are a lot older think long before you make this mistake and that is what it is.

Answer 9

It depends on the individual. I know some 15 year olds who are mature enough to make decisions like that (the decision may be No, but they'll make it with the proper amount of forethought) and I also know some 40 year olds who should never have been let out of the house.

Answer 10

I don't think so. Men mature slowly. He may be interested now, but it can change at the drop of a dime. I think time is something you would have to give the relationship and him. Maybe you should try living together and doing a VERY long engagement first. Then you will be able to tell for sure.