I'm the type of person who doesn't mind their own company. I have been hurt in the past, and I think this may have something to do with it. Also I think I am lazy when it comes to maintaining friendships. My wedding is coming up soon and I am finding it hard to think of suitable bridesmaids.
2007-01-06 16:35:29 · 9 answers · asked by Michelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My sis-in-law will be the main girl. Just need a second....
2007-01-06 16:43:54 · update #1
Hi Redskingi!!!
Welcome to the club!!!! And congrats in you incoming marriage!!! I wish you the best!! And that is starting with making friends, every where!!! Any kind!!!
I'm like you too, but I don't really would like you to go that road. It is a very lonely at the most difficult times!!!
Try to break out of this as soon as possible, before it becomes an illness!!! Depression is one of them!!! You are going to start a new live, so go all the way!!! Start a new life with friends and all!!
It is unhealthy, even when we feel very comfortable being by ourselves. Another thing try always to keep mingling socially speaking and be aware of new things and interesting topics, to develop at gatherings.
Take advantage of your wedding and be open to others. As you go and accept their gifts (make sure you acknowledge everybody there and also those who probably can't assist), tell them that you will love for them to visit some time after the honeymoon.
You will feel much better, and your self esteem will boost off, you will notice how your husband will feel better when you both go to gatherings and parties, once he sees that you are comfortable, he also be happy for both of you!!!
GOOD LUCK!!! GOD BLESS YOU , HAPPY WEDDING &HAPPY LIFE!!
ALLIV Z
2007-01-06 18:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was where you are about 15 years ago...it is only in the past 5 years or so where I have finally found what it takes to truly connect with others...I had my 2 sisters & a friend from the army in my wedding. Needless to say it was a small wedding. I got burned, too, so I didn't want to get close to anyone again and didn't have what it took. I was too insecure. Then I switched to a large church and about 3 years later when I joined things and went to outings I started to make really good, solid friends. I am also lazy about friendships but if they mean something I find myself REALLY wanting to talk with them and keep in touch. The Christian bond definitely helps, too. We are in classes and activities at church together.
Really take stock of who is in your life... Do you have aunts, step-family, family - sisters, cousins, or neighbors, childhood buddies, church friends? Does he have any other relatives you want to ask? Make a list, that will help you organize your thoughts. Ask some other people in your life (neutral, of course) what they think about this. Who do you want standing up there with you? Good luck & congrats!
2007-01-07 01:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by kluvs2write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also one that has many friends but none real close. I feel I don't have time for close friendships. I would imagine that with the people that you know, even if not a best friend, you have some that would be honored to be bridesmaids. Do you have any family that you could ask. It is a honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid.
2007-01-07 00:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by 911RN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I know this all to well. Its like subconsiously a person is afraid to let anyone in to close. The only answer here is to work on your "walls". and good luck with that one. I am 38 and still trying. It really sucks when it comes to an issue that you really need people to help you though. been there, still no luck here. Its hard comming out of your shell, good luck and congradulations
2007-01-07 00:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm like this: the whole a lot of acquaintances thing.
The only advice to you i guess is don't be lazy. If you give in a relationship people will give back, if not they are not worth your time.
2007-01-07 00:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by ftmorgan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same, had my brother as best-man at my wedding and my wife's brother.
Classic introvert here, and I don't think we are as alone as we often feel.
2007-01-07 00:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by cyahlaytar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have close friends...or lots of aquantances..i suppos im a bit of a loner..i too can live with my own company..its less stresfull that way...as for your bridesmaids...surley you have cousins or ither family members??
2007-01-07 00:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pick people that ur comfortable with dont let silly things ruin ur big day.
2007-01-07 00:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by djdrew06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way.
2007-01-07 00:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋