my life is really bad?

Question

im 11 and my mom and dad fight, i get really scared, im an only child. whenever they start yelling i run to the closet and cry. i just wish they would stop. i feel like i have to run away but i cant
(but dont worry they stoped and now we get along just fine)
but it still goes off and on what do i do??

Answer 1

I am 14 and I knew what you were going through when I was 7. Once, I dad got so angry that he slammed a knife down which accidentally flew out of his hands and flew over my head so I know my parent conflicts. Getting away sometimes is a good temporary idea and if you talk to them, they will only act like nothing is wrong between them and say something to make you feel assured.You need to get help from outside sources like friends, councilors, and/or your local priest, rabbi, etc.
There are some signs that things are really bad. IF they attack each other on personal habits or have long lasting lists of bad actions and events made by their spouse. If they say things that are offensive but are not deeply described like calling them lazy husbands or wives, a b****, a s***, or other things with low social value you probably have a way bigger chance of saving their marriage than most.

P.S: I emailed shoppingluvrgurl and let her have it on what she said about your situation and questioned her moral values.

Answer 2

I suggest you talk to them in a calm way and tell them that you are scared that they are fighting I also suggest you don't run into the closet and cry anymore i know it may be extremley hard but you just hold in there and be a strong trooper.I am happy to hear you are just fine now but if it goes on again just hold on in there I suggest you cry when you talk to them and i am suggesting you don't cry in the closet so you can prove to you're parents"i am a strong trooper"tell them you have been trying to be a trooper and that you love them both very much if not i suggest you do this and cry but here's how get a blank sheet of paper stare in it as if it was the person or people you are mad at and cry as much as you want just try not to hide it by going to the closet.omg!i hope this helps you!!good luck and best of wishes!!

Answer 3

According to your last question, your sister and you always fight.... so are you just making all of this up to get attention? I was just about to take you seriously too. And, if you are 11, and your parents do fight a lot... mine were the same. What I did was (if it was really nice outside), I'd go ride my bike, and play outside. I'd even go if it were sprinkling- not raining too hard... but it helped me escape. My parents were married 24 almost 25 yrs... and then my mom divorced my dad. Most of the yelling came from my mom, but... I feel they will both be better off without each other even though it hurts my dad.

Anyways, not sure what else to tell you because I have no clue if you are even serious about all of this. So goodluck!

Answer 4

Well, you know what, that's the same thing with my parents. All my life i've seen them fight and fight. That's it. You gotta get up and stand up for your rights. You have to tell them the way you feel and that you feel unsafe around them. Go to your school and tell you teacher or counslar. They will guide you through the right ideas, because that's what i did. But i know it's hard for you .. my parent's are seperated for a year now.. and im happy that they are, because it's hard seeing these fights everyday. Or you can just go and ask them what's on their mind. why do they fight, can't they just talk about it??? you can also give them a page each n tell them what bugs them and what they want to change between eachother. that also helps alot. And i hope and i will pray to god that everything goes great with you. Because i dont want you to go through the same thing i did. If you want, add me, and i can maybe talk to you some more n help you out. take care... and good luck

Answer 5

Try to talk to your parents. When I was about your age my parents fought as well. My father was really strict and hard-headed. My family was really open and I wasn't scared of them so I would actually walk in the room and split them up and tell them to stop. I know that you probably won't want to take that step. If not that, try finding someone that you can talk to. I met my husband when I was 13 and he was 15 and I remember since we first met he always told me about how his family would fight and even beat him and he didn't want to talk about it, but he always felt better if he talked to me. If you can find someone that you can talk to then do that, and it will make you feel much better. If that doesn't work (and if you are okay with this) you can go to your Father the Lord for comfort. I am a Christian and when my parents didn't get along or we didn't get along I would go to Him for comfort. I hope this can be of help.

Answer 6

I feel for you. I don't know if this will help and this requires a bid of drama.
1. When their fighting makes you feel like crying, cry
2. Run to the room where they are fighting and stand between them
3. While crying say, "Please stop! I don't want you fighting anymore. What can I do to make the fighting stop?"

Parents fighting can be a serious matter. And what I typed above is not meant to be a script for all domestic arguments since life is not scripted. The truth is this is a very difficult issue. I don't know what your situation is. I don't know what they are fighting about and I don't really know how the relationship and respect are between them and between you and them.

Answer 7

Your life is not bad, I know it can seem that way at times. I know exactly how u feel, i can relate. My parents fight alot and I get so scared. I lock myself in my room and cry when it happens. Then afterwards they act like everything is ok but its not. See i'm 13, and i know how hard it can be to talk to a parent because u don't know what they are going to say. I end up usually calling one of my friends or one of my family members. Well if you want to talk to me more about this, I would be happy to help! You can email me at [e-mail]. I hope everything goes ok for you sweetie!

Answer 8

I would take the time to tell them that you are really scared when they fight. But just don't say it all of a sudden. I would tell each one seperately and when they are in a calm mood. Try to avoid doing it when they are watching television or are on the phone, computer, or writing checks. If you ever have time alone with them, tell each of your parents that you love them very much. I pray that all goes well for you. You shouldn't have to go through this feeling alone, many people are willing to help you.

Answer 9

I'm sorry... Be patient ok? I'm 13, when I was your age my parents had a great fight too. I had the same feelings as you had. It's tough really, but that's life. Life is harsh and cruel, we're not in heaven. If you just keep calm, try to talk to your mom and dad. Tell them how much you love them, and ask them how much do they love you. Tell them everything your heart tells you, tell them that you need them very much. You have to make them to think that fighting only make things work. Good luck!

Answer 10

U need to talk to your parents...they need to know how their fighting is affecting u...if u don't it wont stop and it might even get worse...i know your only 11 and yes u r a child, but u might need to be the grown up here...don't get them when they r fighting, talk to them when they r calm so the conversation stays calm and just let them know how u feel and how their fighting affects u.They might go get counselling...it sounds like that may the best thing for them...Good Luck Hun.