I met this guy on the internet we met and year later we got married now married 9 months I find him very insecure he is always not trusting me, controlling me, complaining about everything. He sold his house and moved to me and got a new job which he hates and I live in the city and he don't like that and he just keeps telling me hes not happy but says he loves me. I here everyday how he wants to move back and it makes me feel guilty. He also told me is sex all I think about and now I lost interest in this also. I love him but I don't know how to make this work for both of us. I had a better job and there is little to none jobs where hes from very small one street town. Any suggestions?
2007-01-06 16:07:05 · 9 answers · asked by wildrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You obviously didn't get to know this guy well enough before you jumped in the deep end. Marriage takes a lot more work than just chatting on the internet. You really don't know the person you are talking to. They could tell you anything. How would you know any different ?? It was his choice to move, if you have made it clear to him that you are happy where you are , then l guess the outcome is all up to him now. I wish you luck with this. I hope the outcome works out well for both of you.
2007-01-06 16:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one who made the decision to move. If he wants to go back and you are dead set against it then let him go. What would you do if you got there and no good jobs are there and things didn't get better. you would be stuck trying to get back home and be jobless. This way only one has to take the risk.
2007-01-07 00:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your answers are already posted.
counselling, talking and lots of patience.
Have you visited the small town? You might like it! But before you move make sure you have worked out the problems with the marriage.
2007-01-07 00:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you don't want to hear this but it sounds like he is very selfish. I suggest you be strong and persue your wants and dreams and give him the option to stay or leave but mean while don't let life pass you buy trying to please him otherwise before you know it you'll end up alone without him and without you job family friends or anything else. i know you love him but he needs to love you enough to worry about your happiness also, he know what he was getting in to before he married you, now he wants to complain and make you conform to what he wants- don't do it otherwise you'll end up even more unhappy. put you first. if he wants to walk away let him, his loss.
2007-01-07 00:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Chava 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. Call first thing Monday. And continue talking to each other. You guys need to understand what the other one wants.
Best wishes
2007-01-07 00:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back on the internet.
2007-01-07 00:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by spud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand he dont find his place in ur city and coz this he is unhappy.try move in a new city,a place both of u like and start ur life fresh.
2007-01-07 09:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by simona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you rushed into something and made a huge mistake....cut your losses now. you will be better off in the long run.
2007-01-07 00:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get real if he wants to go back to hicksville show him the door.
2007-01-07 00:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by kilifidoc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋