i am turned on so much about having sex with my wife,bit she doesn't have very much interest at all?

Question

i have mentioned to her a few things but thought that she should take control of that if it was important to her

Answer 1

You need to tell her that you're going to eventually go elsewhere if she doesn't give it up. Make her understand that this is grounds for divorce.

Answer 2

This isn't that uncommon of a situation unfortunately. First, ask yourself a few questions:

- Is everything else in your relationship ok or are you having other problems?
- Did her feelings about sex change abruptly, like something happened to change her feelings?
- Does she push you away when you make advances?
- Does she orgasm when you're intimate? Sorry to be so blunt, but this is a common problem for women.
- What about outside factors? Is she having problems at work? Or stressing about anything else? It's often difficult to 'get in the mood' when you've got things on your mind.
- Has she gained weight? some women are more reluctant to get intimate if they've gained weight or have other body image problems
- Has she recently had a baby? This is very common after having a baby.

Honestly, you need to sit down, talk with her, and explain your feelings. Try to find out why she's not been interested and then you can go about solving the problem. Make her feel comfortable enough to share her feelings about your sex life with you as it can be an uncomfortable topic for some women. The key to solving this problem really is to find out what the actual problem is first.

Answer 3

You tell her you love her and that your turned on for sex with her and seeing you explained a few things you would like to try have her decide and give it a shot and say if after trying she don't like it then you will find some more ideas that might work for both of yous. I would like to tell you shes very lucky to have someone like you in her life.

Answer 4

Just this morning, out of no where, my husband asked me what I liked most about his body. I thought it was strange for him to ask me this. But then I realized that he needs or wants to feel good about himself and know what turns me on. Have you had a chance to sit down with your wife (in bed) and just talk? Ask her what she likes the most (sexually of course), what turns her on? She might just want to talk. Or maybe she's interested in trying something that the two of you have never done. Also, make sure to tell her what you like, what about her turns you on, and things you'd like to see or do.

Have fun!

Answer 5

Of course she isn't interested any more - she's MARRIED.

Welcome to the club, pal.

You are not alone.

Mentioning, begging, pleading, discussing, counseling, herbal treatments, hormone replacement therapy, booze, flowers, ignoring the problem, trying to understand the problem, never talking about it, always talking about it, WHATEVER - none of it will do you any good.

Enjoy!

Answer 6

Maybe "mentioning" a few things isn't the answer. If I were her, I'd want you to do them. Just start trying new things, concentrate on trying to please her more. It has been my experience that most men who feel their wives need to improve are usually doing something wrong!

Answer 7

all the girly magazines say to go out and get a romance novel for her to read before bed to perk up the situation. harlequin romance novels from the grocery store or walmart make great reads! good luck~

Answer 8

the trouble with women

they need a Reason to have sex,
a guy only a few spare minutes!

Answer 9

Marriage counsellor

Answer 10

Of course she is interested.....just not having sex with you. She is probable having a torrid affair....DUH!!!