It's this simple: My husband and I are separating to divorce. He doesn't want to be with me, because there were some things about me that he wanted me to change. He has made it very clear on numerous occassions that he doesn't care about me. He claims that the kids (our son, baby I am carrying, and my daughter) are the only thing that matters. He has cheated on me throughout my marriage and I didn't find that out until about 7 months ago when he confessed. He is still being disrespectful to me and he apparently has a "girl friend" (a friend who is a girl). He is active duty military and can get into a lot of trouble for adultery. He doesn't even care about that. I am 7 months pregnant and have been faithful during our relationship, but I feel deceived, hurt and scorn. At first, I really wanted an apology, but he refused to give me that. I have been slowly but surely coming to grips with that, but is it possible that he really hates me and doesn't want anything to do with me?
2007-01-06 15:51:37 · 7 answers · asked by mightycute912 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What the hell is your question? Does he hate you? Yes. Does he want to divorce you? Yes. Does he care about you? No. Does he care about his kids? Yes. You just reiterated what he said to you. He is not lying to you. He is being honest. I don't see what it is that you do not understand. He will never apologize to you because he hates you and does not care about you and wants a divorce. Duh!
2007-01-06 15:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he hates you even though it feels that way. The way it sounds is that he just plain wants out. Maybe he has tried treating you bad so YOU would leave, cheated on you. disrespected you, told you that you don't matter and all this so that it doesn't look bad on him if you leave him. But you have stayed even though he has done everything except pick you up and put you out the door. Even though he is the asshole in all of this , he has lost respect for you because he has been able to treat you like he has and you are still there. I'm not sticking up for him by far, but would you have any respect or desire for a man that you did all of this to? Be strong stand up to him and tell him fine you want to be a liar and a cheat and you don't want your family anymore then hit the road baby and I will be getting the divorce papers with the CHILD SUPPORT order and you will be out. When it hits him in the head that you are finished taking his crap and he will be faced with child support for 3- ouch., he is going to be the one that is hurting. Be strong you don't need a man like that , if you were a man would you want to be amrried to a slut? He is a slut not worth keeping.
2007-01-06 16:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I've learned is to believe what a man tells you when he says it. Don't "look" into what he says and try to analyze it. If he says he doesn't care I would dare to say he means it and it's time to take him at face value. If he's willing to walk away from you at this time in your life then it's time to face that and move on the best way you know how and take care of those kids. Do what you need to do for YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN and leave him to be the selfish man he sounds like he is. Don't waste another minute worrying about him and trying to win him back. You will just end up doing something you will regret and something that will just make you less of the person you are. Best of luck and I hope you have a healthy son.
2007-01-06 16:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you are much better off without him, and so are your kids. This is coming from a single father of 2. It will be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but it will be the most rewarding. Just let him go on, and you live your life to the best of your ability. He's obviously a scumbag, and I PROMISE you that if your kids are around him, they WILL pick up his disgusting habits. God bless you. I feel that you will do wonderfully on your own.
2007-01-06 15:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate may be a little strong but he has made it clear that he does not want to be with you....my question would be to you why would you care how he feels when all he seems to have done is cheat on you anyways....give him his divorce, get child support and let his "girl" friend put up with his cheating ways
2007-01-06 15:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dealing with a similar issue this man want me to take Care of him I said HELL NO so he told me he found someone who would I said good luck unfortunately we have 10 year old daughter but God is forever blessing me .
2015-02-08 03:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Judith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being sad will affect your child. Try to live strong and be brave. God will bless you!
2007-01-06 16:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋