My son mouthed off to his father, and my husband (his father) locked him in the closet as a punishment. Is that a good punishment or should I add something too it?
He's 17. Teens, I want your opinon.
2007-01-06 15:51:03 · 29 answers · asked by Umm Me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i cant belive you asked "or shoul di add something too it" what is wrong with you?? i hope your joking. You should be asking, "should i leave my husband?" That is WRONG. i serisuly cant get over that...WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???
2007-01-06 18:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Falling Leaves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family needs to go for professional help, especially your husband. I would suggest the next time he is in an amicable mood, tell him what he is doing is child abuse and if it happens again YOU will call the law on him. Your husband is the kind of father his father was...your telling him its wrong and he is facing the law if he does it again , might be just an incentive he needs to stop it. Anger management for the dad would be elpfull, also a 17 year old not agreeing with his father is not disrespect necessarily. A 17 year old has a mind of his own, in a year he can legally make his decisions...and obviously his fathers decisions are not ones he want to live with or by.
2007-01-06 18:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by kitty_kat4602000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 19, so hopefully you want my opinion...
Locking someone in the closet is not a good solution.
If things have gotten to be that out of hand maybe you two should seek some outside help?
There must be some other form of punishment that's less...extreme. Try taking his Ipod (if he has one); he'll hate that, but it's not so intense. Or make his curfew 8 or something ridiculous for a week or two. And of course explain to him what he needs to change to make his behavoir acceptable. But if you ground him for 2 weeks--make sure you stick with 2 weeks, and don't shorten it, or else he'll be more inclined to be rude again.
2007-01-06 16:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO I have children of my own and that is a big no no. If hes mouthing off, try talking to him. Or if it continues, ground him. Let your parenting instincts kick in. Take away priveleges for a week or so. Tell him if he wants respect to show respect. It is your job to teach this child to get ready for the world and not showing respect will get him hurt. Never Never do this again. If my husband did my kids this way, i would lock him out of the house or better yet throw him in a closet and ask him how it feels. Just listen to your inner motherhood and you will know what to do.
2007-01-06 16:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a 17 year old will not be terrorized by being locked in a closet, I know at 17 if I were locked in a closet I wouldnt think much of it - I think the best punishment for something like that is get him to do a whole bunch of chores around the house for a week - maybe after a hard day of work, he will appreciate what his father does for his family to bring a meal on the table...
2016-05-23 01:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you freaking psycho!?
You locked your child in a closet?~!!?!?!?!? And he's 17?!!?!? MaN!!! I feel horrible for him!
That is practically abuse, and if your son were to tell someone about that, you bet your butt that Child services will be called and oyu will be investigated HEAVILY!!!!
I know someone who's parents did that to them, and you would not believe the damage it did to them!!!!!!!!
I think your husband may need to read something, or take a class about how to punish PROPERLY!
2007-01-06 16:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bride2Be 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ... I don't care how old he is.. your the parent's, there are other ways of punishment.. example... take away something that he likes or always uses.. that's just one... ya know.. some people would put that in the catagory as abuse.. mental abuse.. you never know how that can affect him mentally and emotionally. I do belive in punishment, but not that kind of punishment.. I know that mouthing off can really get under our skin, but we as parent's have to keep our cool.. and it can be really stressful, especially when they reach puberty and become teenager's, but just try to maintain and choose the punisment wisely.. not something that will make the situation worse.. good luck
2007-01-06 15:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does "mouthing off" have to do with the closet? I think you should add to the father's punishment, he obviously lacks parenting information or tools.
2007-01-06 16:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by bicycle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am appalled that you are even asking that? What kind of parent are you? That is corporal punishment and, subsequently abuse. This is going to emotionally scar your son, and, if he isn't already on his way to figuring out how to emancipate himself, I hope he does soon. If you think this is appropriate, remember, karma is a &$*@(. Would you like to be locked in a closet? How would you feel if someone did this to you? You and your husband are not fit to be parents!!!!!!!!!!! I hope someone calls CPS on you!!!
2007-01-06 16:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder he's out of control. If you still give him crazy punishments, such as spanking him or, like you said, locking him in a closet, after a certain age, he's gonna finally snap.
And it's never right to lock ANYBODY in a closet, especially your own child.
2007-01-06 16:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but that sounds more like abuse to me than punishment.
Ground him, send him to his room, tell him it's time to move out if he cant respect you but dont lock him up. I believe in respect for parents, and as long as he's living under your roof he should be respecting you! 17 or 21 yrs old, people got to learn responsibility and respect somewhere and if the parents are not going to do things right neither are the children.
2007-01-06 16:07:32 · answer #11 · answered by missjewl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋