feeling confuzzled will you help me???

Question

hi , i'm 14, my family hate me (they say it to my face) i dunno what i did and they wont tell me i asked...its been like this for 1 1/2 years...i dunno what to do i feel so many emotions all at once it feels like its crushing the life out of me, i feel so sffocated...i tried to tell someone like people told me to in the last question i asked but nobody seems to believe me...i am still awake at this stupid hour of 4:30am cuz i can't sleep, everytime i close my eyes i see the blood gushing from my vains or my ahem "family" souting at me, my 7yr old sister said she wishes i would go and kill myself...i tried but it didn't work...i promised my m8 i wouldnt cut mself anymore but its so hard, i have scars on my wrist from 6 months ago still and my m8 told me to stp cutting last friday...i feel so icsolated..my doctor says i'm depressed but i only feel like that when i'm at "home" with "them", i can't leave home cuz i have nowhere to go, i ran away but the police bought me back, i want out

Answer 1

I can't think why your family are treating you this way, it must be very upsetting and depressing for you when you are in this enviroment daily.

Have you perhaps a relative outside your immediate family that might consider taking you in, or at least being there for you to talk too?

It's a very difficult age 14, your not a child and yet not quite an adult. Your hormones are all over the place anyway, but you do not need this stress on top.

I don't know where you live or that councellors are provided at your school, but if they are there, do try and talk to one of them.If not maybe you could see your doctor,everything you tell him/her is confidential,so your parents don't have to know why you went.

You do need help.Your young and you deserve a better life than the one you are leading. Medication from your doctor will help you deal with how you fee, it's not right that you constantly want to harm yourself,it's all combined with feeling depressed.

Take no notice of your 7 year old sister, she's too young to realise what she's saying.
Phone Childline,they will listen and help you,that's what their there for, if you get no help from a relative or your doctor.

Do get help, you deserve a better life, we are all out here for you to talk to us when you need too,so don't feel that your alone and nobody cares because we do.

Keep writing and let us know how you get on.

God bless, we will keep an eye out for your letters.

Answer 2

Oh my gosh!! Sounds like you don't have a good family. Although you may have done some bad things in your life so far, so have most people, especially as teenagers; or whatever trouble you may have gotten into before. I don't know if that's your case, but either way, your family should never tell you that they hate you! That's just horrible. You need some guidance and love from your parents/guardian(s)/ family regardless of what you've done. You're only 14, you're still learning right from wrong. I wish so bad that I could take you and help you. I had bad parents and suffered from depression as a teenager as a result of their parenting. That is why I try my best to be the best mom I can be now. I have two small children. It DOES get better, once you're able to get away from them, unfortunately you won't be able to do that at only 14. It will take a few more years, but those years will pass by very quickly, don't give up.

You're not crazy or at least it's not your fault. Something in your past, upbringing from your family has made you that way and/or depressed. It's nothing that you can't get past though. I was placed in a mental hospital at the age of 13, I know what you're going through.

Answer 3

I would talk to your school counselor or a trusted adviser. As you mentioned you have been diagnosed with depression, are you taking medication for that? If not, then you should get some medication. If you are taking meds and still feeling this way, you need to let the doctor know. This is a serious side effect and perhaps changing meds could solve some of this problem. As far as your family is concerned it sounds like you have big issues. I wish I could say it gets better, but sometimes family members do more harm than they can even see. Is there anyone in your extended family that you can speak too? If not, show them all up and hide a tape recorder or video camera and get it on tape, turn them all in and you will definitely get out of the situation. It may even make them see what they are doing and not realizing they do. Good luck.

Answer 4

If everything felt ok until on a year or so ago - something must have happened to make things change so bad.

Do you get on better with either parent? Perhaps you could try and spend some time with them and discuss how you feel.

It may be that you are going through adolesence which is a tough time and your relationship has broken down with your parents.

They might be just as upset at how you feel but might not know how to deal with it.

I am sure your mum loves you to bits and would be so hurt to find out how upset you are? Thats if things used to be ok?

If not the only other thing i can think of is to speak to someone at school or go backs to the docs and get some counselling - try and help you get back on track.

I do hope things work out for you and you seek help about the self harming and find some other coping mechanism when you are feeling stressed or down. You really do need to make someone listen.

Good luck

Answer 5

You must tell a teacher or other adult what is going on and I think the social work will need to become involved, as this is more than just a teenage tantrum. You say you are cutting yourself and you have attempted suicide - there is no way that you should be left alone to deal with these things. You need psychological help and perhaps a little time away from home in a place of care and safety.

For some people (myself included) growing up can be very hard. Do not try to face it alone. You must tell someone now - call Childline or go straight to your Guidance teacher at school on Monday. Be safe and think of yourself first.

Answer 6

First - if you really meant to write confuzzled, you are too smart and creative to do the S.
Second - write a contract about no S and give it to your mom and two other adults you trust. It works well, trust me.
Third - if the doctor says you are depressed, you probably are. This would be situational depression. See if you can get a med.
Fourth - Strange but a sister will say things like that, especially to someone they envy for being older etc.
Fifth - No easy answers, I had 60 shock treatments and live on meds. Lithium is the best antiS.
BUT A PROMISE - it does get easier. Your family does not hate you but will vent when they hate things you do/say. You are about to hit the surf and experience the wild ride. Hang on.

Answer 7

God Bless you but let me give you some advice. you are young and if you leave your home it will be very hard. you can't get a job so you will be broke. unless you have a friend that has parents that will take you in then you are pretty much stuck. i don't like living in my house with my parents either and i started hating it at the age of 13 and now at 17 i have a 1 year old baby and i don't know where i would be with out my parents (even though i still want to get out of here) but let me tell you what you can do. You can get immacipated if you can take care of yourself. try to call around like children and family services and try to ask them who you need to talk to for help. i am living with my parents and the only way that i make it work is to not talk to them unless i have to and do whatever they say, But every thing they say to you just take it as something that is going to make you a very strong woman in the future. Tough it out and don't let what they say get to you becuase i am sure that you will find a man that will love you more than the world one day. you don't need your family forever so they will be out of your life soon. just show them that you are worth something by doing good in school and staying out of trouble.

Answer 8

OH sweetie, I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. If you have tried talking to your family and it isn't working, try taking it somewhere else. Try talking to a school counsler or a friends parent. I know it seems helpless, but there are people out there that will help. I'm not sure where you live, but I do know that there are hotlines out there for people in your situation. I hope this helps, and I wish you the best of luck! Hang in there

Answer 9

Oh my goodness, honey I feel your pain. I'm 14 too, and I have never felt that way, but I don't want you to do those things to yourself. I have some advice, talk to your friends if you can rely on them. If not, go to a school administrator, teacher, or councilor. It really will help. They will get you what you need. I promise, if you take my advice, everything will be better. Hang in there for now, and good luck!

Answer 10

hang in there kid. Don't cut yourself anymore!!! Try to focus on something that does make u happy. Throw yourself into your school work and that could be your ticket out of that hell hole. I can't imagine telling my children that I hate them. Maybe your family is going thru a rough patch. Let your dr. know that u still fel the need to cut yourself. Dr. might be able to put u on medication. Trust me, in a few years you will be able to be away from this. Wish I could help more. Good luck!! Prayers are with u!!