I'm scared what do i do? my mom is becoming all depressed and lonely again and is thinkin about going back to

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my crzy dad i don't wanna be controlled by him 4ever (he still controls my mom even though they're SEPERATED and has since marrige but does w/e the hell he wants and no one questions him) it's gonne be even worse when we go back and it's just not control issues he's been emotionally abusiev to me my whole life and i hate hate him can't stand him i feel depressed when he's around me and he;s ruined my personality and childhood) he says he's gotten a cpunselor but knwoing him he'll never fully change (like i said he's still a control freak and when he doesn't get his way he can get damn scary and emotionally abusive again like be4) but every1 obeys him and no one seriosuly rebels so he doesn't get lyk tht oh and he's mr. nice guy infront of every1 else and tries to make me look bad especially in front of my grandparents and it works too i got scared and started cry twice when my mom said this if u want more info on my dad look at my last and other questions appreaicate any good help thnx

Answer 1

I know exactly what you are going through. My hubby is the same way, but my kids grew up to whatever he dealt out. Now that they are all in college he misses the heck out of them. They don't even like coming home. When they do come home we all put him in his place. You see, I had three boys who had to deal with a dad who was an alcoholic and very strict. All of his friends from work no nothing about his problems. They all think that he is Mr good guy. He pretends to be the best around everyone that does not live with him.

Hang in there, because as long as you have God on your side he will reveal all evil to everyone that knows your father. That's a Promise!!!

May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word. 2Thessalonians 2:16-17

Jesus said, "If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer." Matthew 21:22

Pray in Jesus name.....

Answer 2

Wow, honey this is too much for you to handle on your own. First, you need to talk with your mom about your feelings. If you are of legal age then get you a job, find a room mate and get out. If you are still a minor and your mom takes him back then find a relative to live with. Contact social services with your problem they can offer solutions. Perhaps you should become involved in community work, after school activities and church. It would be easier for your mom to meet a decent man if she gets out of the house.

It sounds like he tried to destroy what should have been a happy childhood, don't let him rob you of your future too.

I'll be praying for you.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear your going thru this.. I'd call a local woman's shelter and talk with a councellor. As for getting help for your mother she has to come to terms with being abused and get the help herself. If you are of legal age to go on your own do so!!..If not.. (it sounds harsh) but a child protection agency could help you alot in this situation. Your mother is not thinking of your own well being and she should be. Talk to her doctor or other family members to maybe set up an intervention on 1st getting her help for her depression and 2nd to help make her understand that a controlling verbally abusive man isnt what she needs for either of you.

Answer 4

This is too much for you to have to concern yourself with. If you are a legal adult...you should move away from all this chaos! Your Mom and Dad should NOT be burdening you with all their problems.

This whole situation IS and WAS up to your Mom....only she can put a stop to all this. Your Mom is wrong to keep you involved...your Dad is plain dangerous. Stay as far away from both of them as possible.

They don't know any other way to function other than this chaos.

I'm sorry that your Dad ruined your childhood...please DO NOT let them ruin your adult life. Move and start a new life...you can call and check on your Mom, but she's as sick as your Dad.

Good Luck...please start packing...

Answer 5

Sit down and talk with your mother, talk to her as an adult, as you did in your question. Let her know that you know what is going on and that you are concerned for her and her well being. Just be open, there will be crying and if you cry with her that will make your conversation even more heartening, hold onto each other and let her know that you guys will be okay without your father. God Bless.

Answer 6

How old are you? Believe it or not, you can call child protective services if you're under 18. Tell them about the abuse. There are people who love and care for young people, and there is no abuse...either physical or mental.
Talk to a counselor at school. Do you go to church? That is a big plus.

Answer 7

Mamama ,

you need to stand up to your dad and show him enough is enough,With all your strength and feeling sound it out ,scream it out THAT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO LIVE A PEACEFUL LIFE WITH YOUR FAMILY. Don't let anyone torment you and don't show fear because that how he'll creep you up inside. You and your family need to stand up to him. You can go and get a protection from the court house to keep him from hurting you emotionally.My prayer are with you and your family.

I once live your life but it was my mother then my husband. My mother die of aids when I was seventeen.My husband I stood up to him and walked away with both of our kids. And I never turn back . Sometime the one you love are the one that hurt you the most.

Stand up!

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear this. The only thing you can do is try not to make him mad stay away from him as much as possible. But I will say this as a mother he better not lay a hand on you and if he does I hope your mother has the courage to stand up for you and walks out. Try to keep your sanity stay out of trouble and dont listen to any of the nasty words coming out of his mouth. You know who you are dont listen to him.I wish i could do or say more but I cant.

Answer 9

I'm feeling for you, I hope you get the help you need. Please talk to your Mom, don't be confrontational (yelling) with her, just sit down and tell her everything you just told all of us here. If that doesn't work, try talking to your school counselor or a priest. Since we don't know how old you are, I'm assuming you are in your mid teens 14-16? You need to talk to someone hun. Good luck to you, take care.

Answer 10

You need to sit your mom down and have a good talk to her..maybe shes afriad of beign alone,maybe she doesn`t knwo theres help for her out there,sounds lie you both need some councilling and your dad needs a lot of it, i do wish you luck but if she goes back,tell her you may be out the door..and perhaps she`ll relize how bad it affects you both..goodluck there is help out there for you all