my husband says i talk to much. when he talks to others he laughs is happy and always enjoys the conversation but with me he rarley responds and seems agervated i asked him if he is bored with me he says no that i just talk to much. I am upset! now that i think of it while in the home on weekends he doesent talk to me either unless i do should i leave him alone?
2007-01-06 14:54:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give him the silent treatment then...Give yes and no answers and just let him see what he does to you....
2007-01-06 15:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This doesn't sound good. You should be able to have healthy communication with your husband without feeling like you are bothering him. What's worse about this situation is that now you are afraid to talk to him because he seems easily annoyed.
You need to let him know that he has really hurt your feelings by saying this. Be very clear that you refuse to feel uncomfortable in your marriage by not being able to express yourself freely and that he is selfish to even consider insulting you that way.
You deserve to feel and receive the same amount of love that you put into your relationship. If he cannot reciprocate by being considerate then you need to put your foot down and call him on it.
2007-01-06 15:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is different with you than he is with his friends ? Hmmm.....Well, he seems to enjoy his own thoughts to your words. Try silence for awhile, its Golden really. I would go to the opposite extreme and not talk and just listen if he ever speaks, and if he doesn't notice that you are trying new things, I would wonder how I would continue a relationship without any communication.
2007-01-06 15:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by fivefootnuttinhuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like we're in the same boat..it's just with my boyfriend instead of husband. If he doesn't want to be with me, he makes it apparent by the way he acts. I let him be and do my own thing. Communication is key in a relationship and if it's not there, there's no true relationship. People don't marry for "love" anymore. It's more what you can bring to a relationship (interests, whatknot). If I were you, I'd take up a hobby so when he's not wanting to talk to you, you can go enjoy your hobby. I play with my son in his room when my boyfriend is in the mood where he doesn't want to talk to me...
2007-01-06 15:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cali Hottie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, ok, the first two replies were just rude and not helpful at all.Do you agree that you talk too much? It could be that you are just feeling like you need to keep the conversation going to keep him from being bored with you. Tell him what my friend tells her husband and vica versa when they complain about each other.
"You knew this when you married me". He must have seen something special in you, otherwise he wouldn't have chosen you.
I don't know that I have any actual words of wisdom, but ((((hugg))))
2007-01-06 15:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that he is bored with you....i think that he may not like the conversation that you pick to talk about like your hair, shoes or if you butt looks big.....i understand because my husband says i talk too much also.....so he likes politics so I talk to him about politics and things in general....if may be a quite and private person so he does not like a lot of talking.....so the time he wants quite finds hobbies like reading, knitting or exercise classes or kickboxing....good luck!!
2007-01-06 15:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by jark79 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the basis of a successful relationship. If your husband and you are not able to talk freely with each other, your relationship is in trouble. I recommend you find a good marriage counselor.
2007-01-06 14:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by rufus_rob 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DAM THE FIRST 2 REPLAYS WERE JUST PLAIN RUDE.
IN ANY RELATIONSHIP IS VERY HEALTHY TO HAVE A GOOD CONVERSATION, WHETHER YOUR OPINION IS A GOOD ONE OR NOT.
HEY YOU DONT HAVE TO AGREE WITH HIM AND HE DOESNT HAVE TO EITHER. BUT YOU SHOULD FEEL FREE ENOUGH TO EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS, EMOTIONS OR JUST YOUR OPINION.
IN ONE OF THE REPLAYS SOME ONE SAID YOU SHOULD ONLY KEEP YOUR WORDS AND JUST SAY YES OR NO. KEEP IT MINIMUM I AGREE. WHEN HE ASK YOU SOMETHING JUST SAY YES OR NO. AND GIVE HIM NO REASON TO CRITIZE YOU.
EVENTUALLY HE WILL ASK YOU WHAT IS WRONG, I MEAN IF HE CARES FOR YOU ENOUGH HE WILL ASK YOU.
PS: I TELL YA, I DONT GET IT, IF WE AS WOMAN TALK TO MUCH, I HATE TO KNOW WHAT MEN TALK WHEN THEY GET TOGETHER AND BOND. OOPS THEY DONT BOND THEY ARE JUST HANGING ... RIGHT ... WHAT THE F.U.C.K. EVER!!
2007-01-06 16:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could leave him alone. But then how will he know whats happening. I used to leave mine alone. When he got stuck watching TV especially commercials.. lol.. I would get so angry. But now he really tries to listen. I think he realized he was missing out on some important stuff.
2007-01-06 14:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Christina H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Learn to keep some of your thoughts in your head instead of verbalizing everything.
2007-01-06 14:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋