ok im not trying to sound stuck up or spoiled or anything like that. but my family has a lot of money, and i live in an affluent area, i tend to buy people a lot of stuff, from lunches to clothing. recentely i feel like many of my "friends" only talk to me when they want something. 3 of them specifically...2 of the 3, i thought genuinely liked me and didnt talk to me just because i buy them stuff. 1 i just learned really is using me, or so someone told me. its the other 2 that im not sure about, a few people have told me not to trust them and that they are two faced, but i cant tell. while i do buy them stuff...mostly lunches and stuff along that line, i feel that they like me buttt ughhh i cant tell. i talk to them both a lot but one of them seems to talk to me more when she needs something...i dont know.
2007-01-06 14:34:28 · 17 answers · asked by ms be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's possible that they are using you, since, sad as it is, there are quite a lot of people like that in the world. However, don't jump to conclusions. Take it from me, I've seen a lot of friendships go sour, all because of a stupid misunderstanding. Just to be sure, stop buying them stuff for a while, and see what happens. Your true friends will stick with you, and the ones who are using you will eventually drift away. Think of a feasible excuse, one that won't offend. I hope you find some great friends you can always trust, and soon! Best of luck ^_^
2007-01-14 10:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amaryllis 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had a similar experience once upon a time...although I wasnt 'wealthy', I always worked and had money in my pocket for 'stuff'...eating out buying something new etc. I had two good friends that I often treated for luch etc. I felt good treating them when I wanted to BUT i did come to realize that they liked the fact that they could 'use' me that way. One of them was more of a friend with me than the other...she would do things for me and help me out etc BUt the other was not the same way plus, she made me feel bad about myself... You should look carefully as to which is a 'true friend' who takes care of you too...and which is just using you...you know--trust me, you know. If someone makes you feell uncomfortable, dont spend so much time around them... There are great friends you can have/do have and you dont need to buy anyone anything....unless its their B-DAy! or some special day for them! As for lunch--50/50 or take turns! ;) Good luck....and take care of YOURSELF* be good to "you"...
2007-01-13 05:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Waiting to Scream* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be both, that may be the only way they can relate to you is by you giving them stuff all the time and they may have just became acustomed to it . They might be afraid if they don't accept your gift that u might not be there friend anymore. Also, Can u depend on them like they depend on you? If something bad were to happen to you would they be there for you? if you can't answer those questions with a straight answer then they might not be friends. As far as the giving is concerned what purpose are u giving for because u like giving from the heart or just for show? i could go on 4ever just answer those ?s and it should come to you
2007-01-14 13:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by o.O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for 1 thing you should have never bought clothing for them in the first place. that's like an open invitation for saying i have lots of money and could buy you anything. 2nd, stop buying them lunch and to make it easier bring enough money to buy your own lunch or snack. if they stop talking to you or get mad at you because of that than they're obviously not your friends and never were. for future reference, try to keep the fact that you have a lot of money low key so you won't really have a problem telling whose your real friend or not.
2007-01-06 17:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by brown579 s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard but for one solid year, set a spending limit ( an amount you would spend on any one gift). Then only get gifts for holidays, special occasions and birthdays ONLY! no exceptions.
Now after doing this, at the end of one year see who has complained to you about it or just stopped hanging around and you should have a rough estimate of who your friends are.
Enjoy!!
2007-01-13 09:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by SteeLBeeFDammiT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only you can tell who is your "true" friend. Why not stop buying them stuff for a while, and see if they still talk to you. If they do, then maybe they really are your friends. If not, then i guess that they aren't your best friends. Good luck sweaty.
2007-01-14 13:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by mysterious girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but from your reading. I think they are just using you.. but only the 2. If you have an iffy feeling about them and cannot trust them.. just stop buying things for them. Its your money and not theres, like I know it is very generous.. but if it gets very out of hand.. you probably need to stop.
2007-01-12 09:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea they're using you.......stop buying people stuff and only get them things on their birthdays. you need 2 find other (better) friends that dont expect you 2 give them something everytime they see you! tell them 2 get off their lazy butts and go buy their own stuff! stand up 4 yourself!
2007-01-06 14:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Marks gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plead bankruptcy. Mom confiscated the card, whatever, your true friends will still hang around and buy you food for a change, the others will drift away.
You never have to buy friendship, it like trust is earned.
2007-01-06 14:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Old guy 124 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend is a friend with or without money.
If the only time they talk to you is when they want something than Yes they are just using you. Do your friends ever treat you to lunch?
2007-01-14 13:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋