I know Ive asked a bout abortions before but I wanna know, can you put into , three to four sentences of what you should do to get over losing a child you aborted??
not referring to me, and honest and none rude dumb comments please thanx ..
2007-01-06 14:34:10 · 16 answers · asked by Cheare C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You have to forgive yourself. How you do that, a lot of soul searching.
2007-01-06 14:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you up front, this is not three to four sentences. I have personally experienced this pain also. Just remember that there is always a reason for everything. I don't know your specific situation but I am sure that the decision you made was a very difficult one. I am sure whatever the reasons were, that you made the right decision for your particular situation. Don't let others opinions of you get you down. Just know that you made the right decision for you. That is all that really matters. The pain will lessen as time goes by and some day maybe you will completely set it free. My pain was finally completely diminished when I married a man who had a daughter who is the exact age of the child I aborted and she carries so much of the same traits as I do...it's almost like she IS my child. Hang in there....you are not alone.
2007-01-07 00:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by hotrodgirl1973 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had an abortion due to health problems. I didn't think of my health first before I got pregnant and I wanted a 2nd child. I was selfish. I am human and I'm not perfect and humans make mistakes. Before I had the abortion. I talked to the spirit of the fetus and told it why I made a mistake, and that I had health problems, and they should leave my body immediately, and for it to find other women who are unable to have children to go to them, or if they choose ,they can wait for me when I'm healthy to come back later and by my child. I talked to the fetus daily until I had my abortion and I let the spirit go with love and compassion. The surgical abortion was very painful. They didn't numb me, I screamed of excrutiating pain for 5 minutes. But it ended immediately.
After my abortion, I had dreams of what my child would have looked like and she revealed herself as a girl. I felt at peace. I named her Angelique Celeste because it meant Angel in Heaven.
My abortion was 10 months ago, sometimes I miss her and I would cry thinking about her. Even though I know I made the right decision. But I could feel she wants me to move on. I'm healing everyday.
2007-01-07 00:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can heal all pain. I don't think anybody ever gets over having an abortion if they feel uncomfortable with it, but guilt is much worse when you have a child you cannot provide for properly. Know that the decision was made for the right reasons & forgive yourself.
2007-01-06 22:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One never truly gets over it however you don't have to spend the rest of your life beating yourself up over a decision you made. I've never regreted my decision and never will, I also don't think about the "what if's" and try to imagine what he would look like now at the age of 31 (which is how old he would be right now). I am greatful that this proceedure was available and that it helped me get out of a situation that had I remaind in would have landed me in my grave and I would not have lived to have my now almost 21 year old daughter as well. I know that's more than three or four sentences but you seem to figure that every woman who has had an abortion is beating herself inside for doing so, not all of us are. Not all of us regret making a life's decision that made it so we COULD move on with our lives and CHANGE them.
And abortion is NOT murder because there is NO baby, a Baby is a BORN person a pregnancy is NOT a born person and an abortion is the termination of a pregnancy. In order for it to be murder it has to be against a BORN person. You can't murder what hasn't been BORN.
2007-01-06 22:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I must say Colleen is wrong. A child is life as soon as it hits the womb. People say it isn't to justify what they have done in their own minds. The baby has a heartbeat, can eat, sleep, suck its thumb and grows in the womb, so how can it not be alive. That is bull that you have to be born to be a life. Any woman that has felt the child move in her knows it is alive inside of her before the child is born. The way to get over it is to forgive yourself and not do it again. Try birth control next time.
2007-01-06 23:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The person you are referring to should seek sexual education. They make tons of contraception options to prevent unwanted pregnancy. In my opinion there is no reason for abortion. Too many people out there are childless and unable to have children who would be willing to adopt. SEX HAS CONSEQUENCES!! To be honest they should have to face up to the abortion b/c they helped create a life and then destroyed that gift. Seek a therapist if they want some sympathy but remember they arent the victim.
2007-01-06 23:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by pinkjet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It takes time to heal from any hurt we experience. I'm sorry that whoever you're asking for felt the need to abort, and I know she is probably dealing with so much hurt from that. I can hardly imagine the emotional pain.
Please tell her that the Lord hurts with her, and while this is not something He would have wanted her to do, he is forgiving and has that child in his hands now. She has a chance to see that child again someday by simply choosing to follow Jesus Christ and accept his forgiveness for her mistakes (which we are all guilty of making). All of us who are followers of God are welcomed into heaven. She can indeed be reunited with her child.
I will be praying for her. She needs lots of love right now.
2007-01-06 22:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kim A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't abort a child and you won't have that problem is what I'd tell you're friend. Not trying to sound rude or dumb, but please, it's killing someone who cannot defnd themselves, so let me do it for them. DON'T. There are other options, keeping it(probably not what you were lookig for) and adoption being just 2 of them. Don't kill a baby. It's murder.
2007-01-07 01:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally just distanced myself from the situation, found diversions I enjoyed until I was emotionally strong enough to face the situation and talk to friends about it. Counseling helps too.
Good Luck
2007-01-06 22:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly recommend the free online post-abortion study available at this site: http://www.healinghearts.org Most of their email counselors are women who have aborted babies themselves. They can help.
2007-01-07 19:42:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋