am pregnant abort or keep?

Question

i wanna keep it cos its d only thing i can call my own. but d fact is i cant tell a soul who d father is even the father! so wat if my babe starts askin den i tot of the stigmatization he'd go through, and if i kept it i wuld stop sch totally and i love sch! (weird) if i gave him away he wuld grow up tinkin i dint lov him enough ! i have so much daouts ..................

so do i keep him or lt hm go???!!
HELP

Answer 1

you will love him either way. if you keep him he may have some hard times in life, as every child of single parents does. but you would only have to let him know how much you love him. if you put him up for adoption you will still love him, and miss him, and hopefully you would be able to explain someday about everything. if you abort him, you will see him again in eternity.

i am assuming sch means school. if it is high school they have programs for parents. most, i dont know if all, colleges have on-site daycares, and there are many grants available for young mothers, single mothers and the like.

base your decision on what you think would be best for both of you. dont listen just to the comments you are going to get on here.

and dont worry about the father....many babys never know their fathers. if you are lucky you will someday be able to give him a daddy, which is more important than a father any day


good luck with whatever you decide

Answer 2

Put the baby up for adoption some one who will be able to care and afford to keep him. I see you have doubts notify an agency or planned parenthood, catholic charities these are good places and they will help you. There are adopted parents out there who will allow you to see the baby and when the time is rite he will know he was adopted but you were always in his life. But mind you they will be the real parents of the child. This could be worked out with the lawyer for the adopted parents. This way everyone is happy, If you really love your child . don't end his life give him a chance..........You'll be able to go back to school and make a new life for yourself. Also get some birth control. First time is a mistake, the second time is just being careless.

Answer 3

First you aren't "letting him go" if you abort him, you are killing your child.

Do you really want to be the sort of person that kills her own baby?

Secondly if you give him away after he is born, he won't grow up thinking you don't love him. If you put him up for adoption he will grow up knowing that you DID love him, because he will know that you didn't have him aborted. He will know that you loved him enough to let him live, and that you loved him enough to give him the best chance you could in life... and that is all that any mother or any parent can do. He will know this because you can arrange the adoption so you can see him (a friend of mine did this when she put her baby girl up for adoption) so you can tell him this yourself.

So go be the best mother you can be, let your baby live, and make sure that he or she gets adopted into a good home.

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Answer 4

No one can make that decision for you. I will tell you this. My brother was adopted. He doesn't hate his paternal mother. He is grateful because we are his family. If anything he is grateful. I am grateful also. She gave us one of the greatest older brothers a woman could have. Also, many single mothers do well on their own. I was thinking of adoption as well. Though I am pregnant now, I will not rule out adoption. :) I wish there were more people like my brothers birth mother. Then they could know the blessings of having a brother. He is our brother. In our hearts we know who is his family and so does he. But, the gratefulness that his birth mother gave us can never be forgotten. But the biggest thing is what you feel your decision is. You may have the baby, you may give the baby up for adoption, or you could choose to abort the baby. Whatever your decision is, it will not be an easy one. I know whatever you will choose what is right.

Answer 5

first of all this is not the place for these kind of questions people will hang you without a trial on here if you get my point! since your asking and since you have answered your own question as well.. i think you already have your answer..you seem very young and having a baby in the situation in which you seem to be in..no you should not have the baby do what is best for you and also keep yourself out of situations like this, this is no type of life..being young and having to hide things like this is no good and only gets worse if you dont start making better choices..abortions are not cheap however so you may need to confide in some one close to you for emotional and financial help

Answer 6

I understand how u must be feeling, I had an abortion 3 months ago coz it could have been 1 of 2 mens baby but I regretted it instantly but now Im 4 wks pregnant and keeping the baby. If you don't want the baby to grow up without a father then mayb abortion is the option

Answer 7

Every Child is put on this earth for a reason. I mean if u dont' want to raise the child there are some many people that want children but can't have them that would love to adopt a child. Its up to u but before u do anything just think what this child can do when it gets older. he/she could find the cure for a deadly disease or be role model to children and adult. Every child derseve a chance. Jut remember that

Answer 8

You sound far to young to have a baby, the chances r if your child goes in to care he could be abused, beat up or neglected by his carer or left in a run down childrens home where he gets picked on everyday
Abort the child and dont drain the goverment any more then it already is

Answer 9

did you teach yourself how to spell? or did you just never go to school when you were growing up? my god...well from what i could understand...i think your asking if you should abort the baby or keep it...
you better keep that baby! i hate people who abort babies cause its just like killing someone...from conception that baby is living so you would be killing a human being if you abort that child...so if you just have no heart than go for it...but if you actually care about the child the you wouldnt kill it....and you always have the option of adoption.....but its up to you-kill a human being....or give birth to it and make sure the child knows who his mom is...or adoption

Answer 10

Judging from the fact that I have almost no clue what your talking about due to your choice of language, I'm gonna go ahead and say you'd be doing the world a favor by not breeding.