well ive been wearing sweaters since i was in sixth grade they just make me feel safe when i was 11 and younger i was getting molested so i think thats why i wear them because they cover me up and i feel like nobody can never see my body naked i want to stop wearing them i would first start of with long sleeves but i just dont know i have my problem areas like my arms and my lower back i just dont know if i could let other ppl see me with a tight shirt i dont have t-shirts or loose shirts so what can i do i dont feel comfortable at all but i know that someday im going to have to stop wearing sweaters:(
2007-01-06 14:22:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
Hello,
I too am a survivor.
First it is normal to feel the way you do! So do not feel bad for wanting to protect yourself. Have you had counseling for your experience? A need to feel safe should be honored!
If you have not had counseling then one of the best books is the Courage to Heal. This will put you on the path.
You obviously want to have a more varied wardrobe. Begin by imagining wearing a shirt that looks fabulous on you, is not tight, but fits you perfectly. Imagine wearing this perfect shirt and having a bubble of safety around you. Imagine how good you feel to be free and feel safe. What does the shirt feel like? What does the shirt look like? What color is it? How does it feel to wear the shirt? Do this once a day for 2-5 minutes.
Next begin by going shopping a few times and trying on shirts. One day you will find the perfect shirt and buy it! Wear it around the house. Then wear it out with some trusted friends you know would keep you safe.
One day you will feel comfortable enough to wear appropriately fitting clothes .
Be kind and loving to yourself. It takes some time to heal. Your question was the first step!
2007-01-06 14:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Just2BMe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go buy a loose t-shirt and wear a sweatshirt or sweater over it then about every 30 mins tell ur self no 1 is after u and try to take the sweatshirt off keep doing every 30 min until u get it off
2007-01-06 14:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to take mild therapy. You are probably paranoid because of the molesting. But for now, comfort yourself and your body, and just wear sweaters. It's not too bad!
2007-01-06 14:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww .im sorry you have to feel like this!!..well i think that you have to start off slowly and work your way up,,you cant just wear a long sleef your whole life and the next day wear a tank top. second,,you should first think about what happend to you,,and see if you really are over that incodent,,,third, star by wearing like tees that arent short short just like up to your shoulder,, and take a little sweater or jacket with you just in case you dont feel compfortable,,and work your way up from that. ,,dont care about what others think about you ,,because they dont know you and your problem,,just think about you...if this doesnt work for you,,you should really get help,,
good luck..i really hope this works for you and you get ocer this!!!
2007-01-06 14:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should use a regular shirt then wear a jacket to cover yourself and you can close the zipper so u can feel more comfortable like a sweater
2007-01-06 14:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i felt just like u in school but i waz like look self u cant be wearing fleases( i wore light jackets everyday even if i waz hot) but i had all these nice clothes and now i have a personal style and look fly but when u wear curtain clothes i feels like ur naked but no boy will realy see u like that just forget what other people see u, u see ur self as a beautiful young lady and what eva to what u said itz my style a personal one at that and u get out there and be urself open up gurl i did
2007-01-06 14:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jelly Bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel for you. I have the same problem.
Good news is that you don't have to show off your back, or your arms if you don't want to.
I highly suggest counseling. Learn to see yourself as beautiful and strong and not a victim. You're a survivor and can be victorious.
2007-01-06 14:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by R J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad i suggest wearing possibly a camosole and a t shirt so if your shirt happens to go up no one could see anything
2007-01-06 14:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~N@t0$h3a~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would start by seeing a licensed therapist. the can help you deal with the problems at hand. they are much deeper than just wearing sweaters. it is good that you see them, but you need to start deeper before you can deal with this smaller issue.
2007-01-06 14:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i am sorry!!! to answer your question... i'd stay what you are comfortable in. dont try to wear a tight belly shirt! i'd talk to an adult you trust and ask and go to a therapist, unless you havent already, and ask advice... but remember.. if your not comfortable in it... you dont have to wear it. :) good luck!!!! hope this helps!
2007-01-06 14:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by **~Dancer 4 Life~** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋