i just found out that my friend was a lez and that she has feelings for me i find that really gross because i do not like girls that a lezs
how do i tell her this with out her getting hurt?
please help!
2007-01-06 14:18:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just tell her you are not into girls and you like her as a friend but not in that way. tell her you want to remain friends as long as she can respect you and that you don't like her like that.
2007-01-06 14:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by blueflash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By referring to her as a "lez" you betray your own strong bias against homosexuals. Perhaps you said this out of simple ignorance, and not to convey any hatred of gay people.
So, if you like her, if you value her as a person, stop thinking of her as a "lez". She is a lesbian.
Once you get past that, then simply talk to her, honestly and sincerely. She is not going to rape you. And she is not going to be hurt because you are straight. Oh, she might be a little disappointed, but she'll get over it. Be honest, treat her with the same love and respect that you would any other friend.
2007-01-06 16:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by tychobrahe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the friendship is over, you refer to her as a lez. your disgust is showing and is more important than the friendship.
2007-01-06 14:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jus make it clear where you stand and yall friendship is strong enough she will relize the situtation give up any feelings she may have for you and you guys can go on havin a no akward friendship
2007-01-06 14:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by HP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking this question and saying you find the situation gross i can foretell than in no time friendship will die...you will start avoiding meeting her and she will find another friend.
2007-01-06 14:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by whoknows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her " Im sorry, I am straight, but i still wanna be really good friends with you"
2007-01-06 14:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kendra 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're not attracted to girls. Be honest that you don't go that way.
2007-01-06 14:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place sweetie, the word is Lesbian. Say it with me L-e-s-b-i-a-n. Just tell your friend how you feel.
2007-01-06 14:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how you feel
2007-01-06 14:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by KTbaybee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋