One of my friends is scaring me a lot. I don't know what to do.?

Question

My friend is very attracted to any guy. And she is very easy. I am scared that she will get her self in trouble. if you know what i mean.. she is also a little mentally challenged. but, her parents don't help her at allll. any advice on how to talk to her?? I have tried but she just says ok and goes and teases another guy. I am scared...if there are any aadvice givers...and also it would help if you had been in her situtation..i just don't want her to get raped

Answer 1

is she a flirt? Or is she humping everything in sight?

Answer 2

What you need to do, is talk to her....but, don't make anything too serious or else she'll just blow off everything you say. Call her up and tell her you want to have a girls' night. Get one of her favorite movies and make some popcorn. You want your friend to feel relaxed....don't corner her or else she'll feel like you don't respect her judgement and that you know everything....trust me. Tell her you care for her, and have a serious talk about how what she's putting herself through is taking its toll on you. Maybe you can download the last Veronica Mars episode off line....it's an intense show, and lately has dealt with a lot of date-rape cases. If you can't get that episode than try to get a movie she likes that has a character in it that doesn't treat a girl right or that doesn't get treated right by a guy. That way, you can pause it and tell her that you want to make a pact with her. Tell her that you're going to promise not to go too fast with a guy and neither should she....that way she feels like it's not just her...you're taking the pact too. I hope that helped.....good luck!

Answer 3

You need to talk to her parents and her again, but most importantly talk to your school counselor. She may give you some advice to help you on your way and may also talk to your friend for you. You could also suggest to your friend different ways to talk to and behave around guys. The power of casual suggestion does great things. Also show her by example. Make sure you do not act inappropriate around guys in front of her. If her or her parents get mad at you, then that's okay. You are trying to help a friend and I would rather them be mad then be hurt.

Answer 4

I would sit her down one day, face to face, not on Messenger or anything and tell her that you care for her a lot, and her behaviour is scaring you. Tell her that you don't want to see her end up in a ditch somewhere, and just wish she makes better choices. Tell her to stop and think before she does the things she does. Most importantly, make sure she knows she is loved. From my unprofessional psychoanalysis of this young woman, it seems like she is 'sleeping around' to feel wanted and needed. You're a good friend for seeking help, and for trying to help.

Answer 5

yes u are doing what is right i think that u need to tell her that its not safe out there and i think that u need to tell her that u see people on tv all the time that are doing the same thing and they are not living and that u care about her and dont want nothing to happen to her and that people are going to take advantage of her because of the way that she is and tell her that there are so many things out there and that she might be one that never see's home and see if that get to her i think that they are going to do what ever they want to but there is so much that goes on out there and guys are going to take asvabtage of her knowing that she is like this and then what u know and if she dont like what u are saying then tell her that u are trying to jsut be her friend and if something like that happens there is nothing that u can do

Answer 6

Sometimes you just have to trust her judgement, even if she is a little mentally challenged. You sound like an extremely incredible friend, so just stay open with her, let her know how you feel. Best of luck.

Answer 7

Maybe you should try talking to a adult or someone else that she respects or will listen to.. Some people never listen hun they have to make there own mistakes to learn. If your in school maybe a teacher, guidence counselor, But You are a great friend for trying to help... Good luck and best wishes!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Is there any way you could talk to her parent and her together and just express your concerns? Or have your mom talk to her mom? If you have suggested to her that what she is doing is dangerous, that she is vulnerable to be taken advantage of, and she disses you, well, you have done what you are able to do under the circumstances.

Prayer might help.

Answer 9

Tell her what she's doing. And then show her pictures of people who got raped, murdered or even people dying of AIDS. i don't know how mentally handicapped you have to be, but those pictures scare me!

Tell her you care! and you want her to be safe! By the way, its her own decisions...sometimes they have to find out the hard way!

Answer 10

my friend amanda sounds like your friend. shes a real big flirt too..........well so am i but i know when to stop + i dont go up to every guy i see. i flirt wit my guy friends a lot. shes gonna get hurt sooner or l8r. try talking to her again or tell her parents. if it doesnt work then stop being her friend! sorry but i dont have anymore advice. :(

Answer 11

there's only so much you can do as a friend;
if you're burdened by the situation, you might want to talk to her parents and air your views;
if the parents do not react to this....why should you?
good luck nice friend....