Will respect and honor be enough?
2007-01-06 14:15:14 · 31 answers · asked by floridasian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Addendum: This question wasn't posted out of boredom. We're not married and have been together for 3 years. I love him and told him so. He never said he loves me, but when asked he said he feels love for me sometimes.
If you feel love, shouldn't you be able to say it when you feel it.
If you can't say, "I love you," then does it mean you don't love that person?
2007-01-07 02:39:08 · update #1
yes but it is not good
2007-01-06 14:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect and Honor is fine and all, but what then would the point of marriage be? You can have all the respect and honor you want in your marriage, but sooner or later you're going to be catching yourself finding the 'love' elsewhere.
I wouldn't base a marriage on just these two characteristics alone. Love is a really, really powerful foundation that allows room for respect and honor etc. In any case, whatever you decide make sure it comes from the heart and not just because the mood is right.
2007-01-06 22:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Island Ch!ck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend starting out that way. But, if you must and you can begin with respect and honor, it's possible.
If you intend to do this, may I suggest that you bring love into your marriage as a verb instead of a noun. Don't try to make an emotion as something to possess. Instead, do all things in your marriage with love so that you can better survive.
Simply, if I feel a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart for my wife, that is is love as a noun- a thing. If I get up on a cold winter morning when I don't have to and go start her car so that it will be warm for her before she leaves for work, that is love a verb- an action.
2007-01-06 22:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the persons in the situation. If respect and honor are all that you want, then you will be fine. If you want love, laughter, kindness, trust, respect, communication, intimacy, gentleness, and in time, children, you might wind up frustrated and emotionally alone. I don't know why you asked the question, but I hope you think long and hard about marrying without love. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-06 22:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In fact you dont even need love, respect or honor to be in a marriage. People get married (or are pressurised into marriage) just for the fact that its been socially instituitionalised as a norm, being a legal contract that offers citizenship and financial benefits.
2007-01-06 22:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by arielstorm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can, but why would you want too? Life is entirely too short to spend it unhappy. I spent almost twleve years married to a selfish, immature man who ended up cheating on me. I thought I could love enough for the both of us.
I'm not sure why you would marry a person you didn't love in the first place. My advice is to talk to your husband perhaps he is feeling the same way or he can sense your feelings.
2007-01-06 23:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. marriage is a public expression to the world and to God of your love and commitment to each other.
of course if you cut out the vows "to love", and just leave honor and respect, then that is a recipe for disaster.
reason being.........staying married is already hard to begin with. a loveless marriage will complicate things more.
Remember love conquers all.
2007-01-06 22:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can respect and honor someone but w/o love included a marriage will never work. If you r not in love than you r cheating yourself out of life. Find someone who provides all your needs including love.
2007-01-06 22:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kadija T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's also the aspect that someone gets "married" so that they could get into this country somehow even though the INS cracks hard on those situations. It's no love there, just pay off a citizen financially and have him/her "marry you"
2007-01-06 22:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this, mostly it is out of convenience, both need each other for some reason, but it is a shallow existence and usually leads to separation or living separate lives, all in all its only a lie.
2007-01-06 22:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. My parents got a divorce two years ago. I guess they didn't love each other that way anymore. I don't know your situation. But if kids are involved, I would STRONGLY recomend going to conselling before you call it quits, because sometimes splits don't just affect you.
2007-01-06 22:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by lovely lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋