2007-01-06 14:13:34 · 20 answers · asked by [ΦΘΚ] ﮎl4CK3R 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The fact that you are asking this question puts you on the right path#1 recognize that as a child the crazy things that happened to you were not your fault. #2 you deserve to be loved and anyone who didn't show you love as a child missed out! #3 As an adult, you are now in control of your life. Don't let anyone victimize you anymore. #4 Forgive those that have hurt you, people do the best they can with what they know. If your parents F**ckd up, it's because they didn't know better, not because they wanted to. Forgive them, and learn better in your own life. #5 You have a long road to hoe, but keep seeking the truth and bettering yourself.
You're gonna make it!
2007-01-06 15:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely,it really depends on you. Do you have the skills needed to cope with the trauma? Do you have a clue how to process your emotions? If not please see a qualified therapist before you get any older. Don't expect your therapist to tell you what to do. They are trained to ask you the right questions that in turn will help you figure out what you need to do. Therapy is a process and requires rigorous honesty between you and your therapist. It requires digging deep inside your soul, pulling everything out and taking an honest look at how you feel about different situations. It can be difficult to get started but I promise you hang in there,it does get easier and it will work but only if you let it. I wish you much success.
2007-01-06 22:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by eve c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only affect your relatonships if you still remember your past and let it have a hold over you. If you have forgotten about it, then I doubt it, but there is always a chance that you might be reminded of it at some time. I think that if this is bothering you, then you should go to a therapist to get it sorted out.
2007-01-07 05:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Corrida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can!!! I had an alcoholic abusive father (toward my mom not me). He was and still is a control freak though he no longer drinks.
I tend to be drawn to more passive aggressive men. Which I'm not happy about but, it all stems from my childhood.
2007-01-06 22:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Debra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you choose "unforgiveness" and retain the bad.
Best "fact" , faith, and "feelings being the "cuboose".
If you retain the details of your hurt, it influences or "colors" your thoughts and reactions to specific "stimuli" that will be distorted
beyond what is rational.
when your a kid "everything" is bigger than it seems and you tend to amplify the experiences you had, seems our minds are much younger than our bodies. Face the traumas, forgive who or what caused them, let it go. You will be at much more peace with yourself and others.
2007-01-06 23:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably...
At least until you find a better way. We are the consequence of our parts you know?
Unfortunate but true...
The good part is, God gave you common sense, opinion and rational to overcome what our parents did to us!
What I would like to know is.. What's up with all the purple coofies?
2007-01-06 22:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello i am not psychiatric but i advise to take the bright side from the past and learn from the mistakes u did in the past after that forget it totaly ,,, and keep looking forward + try to find good friends to help u and don't forget the family they will always loves u
2007-01-06 22:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by jo n jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only affect you if you allow it to. If you're concerned, actively develop good habits now, such as expressing your feelings. You can also seek counselling now, to cut off any problems before they start.
2007-01-06 22:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's what you decide. We all have the power to chose what to do with our life. We're not responsible for the past, but we're for the future.
Tell your problems to a friend, it'll help you feel good.
2007-01-06 22:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes......Get as much therapy as you can afford and keep with it as long as you need to. Just being able to recognize that you've been scarred is a plus. Good luck to you.
2007-01-06 22:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋