If your daughter was 33 and a pregnant single mom, would you congradulate her?

Question

I am 33 and have a 7 year old that is well taken care of and happy. I got pregnant again, and then the father left... I was excited about the baby despite his leaving... I am 4 months and not one family member has congradulated me. I feel insulted.. if I am happy, why can't they be happy for me? I have proven that I can do this and do it well..

They are religious, and this does not fit into their 'right and wrong' category on the right side.. but if I am happy, why can't they be happy for me, or at least say 'congradulations'?

Answer 1

You know what families are like that very judgemental toward each other but rest assure if it was one of them that was going thru this they would want the whole world on their side. You know what you got all the congratulations you need from you 7yr old i am sure, and you are a good mom to him and will be a great one to the next one. Just show them that with or without their happy words you will be fine and continue to keep being the great parent you are now.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all, you are an adult and able to make your own decisions (i'm 32...so I get it). However, as an "adult" your actions should speak as one of an adult. Yes, you did have sex and that is your choice, but there is a time to draw the line and say no until you are ready to commit to someone before rounding home plate.

On the flip side, your parents should see it that way also, the being an adult part, and making the adult decisions and yes they should congratulate you...albeint begrudgingly, but they should.

How are you going to explain to your kids that they come from 2 different daddies, and where there daddies are when they want to know at 13, 14, or 15 years old.

I have a 7 year old also, and they grow up faster these days...they are about 2-3 years older mentally than they are chronilogically. Your seven year old will figure it out probably in the next year so be ready.

Good Luck to you and...Congratulations mamma!! =)

Answer 4

I congratulate you!!! Having a baby is always a joyous occasion especially if you feel confident enough that you can take care of 2 children without the help of a man. I kinda know what you feel like though. I am 26, married for 5 years, have one son (4 yrs old) and I am preggo with #2. I am 11 weeks. Everyone I have told is happy for me, but I did not get the "congratulations" that I wanted from one specific person. My mother. She is infurriated because she says that we can't afford another one. We aren't that bad off. I found out i was preggo on Nov 17th and she hasn't talked to me since then.

Answer 5

I dont for one second think its right that they didnt congratulate you. I am pregnant with #3 and I have a very large family and only got 1 TRUE congratulation from my sister and from my boss. My mom just said wow and laughed and because I was put on bed rest was told by her i prob shouldnt have any more kids. Not even a congratulation either,I dont care though..As long as me and hubby are happy. Dont let them get to you,if u are happy and healthy thats all that matters..god blessed u with this child and dont let anyone get u down. I know its not the same cause u dont know me but ~Congratulations~!!! =) and lost of *~*~baby dust~*~*

Answer 6

They may not think you want their support right now... they may think that because of everything lately it is to sensitive a topic to discuss, and could offend you. I married into a super religious family, and when I told them about our second child(current preg.) they where happy, but didnt say congrats or anything, it was mroe leika good for you. Oh well some people are like that. Also some people wont congrats you untill after you have the kid, cause pregnancy isnt hard enough for a congrats to some people.

I woudlnt worry about it to much. Unless your phsycic you'll never now what go's on in thier heads, espeacially when religion is involved.

Answer 7

Congradulations! I can understand, probably your family is a little less than thrilled because your husband left- and that you need to take care of this new child all by yourself. People arent' perfect, don't look for perfection. Your not going to find it anywhere. The best you can do is to do the best for your children and yourself. That's a full-time job, besides your work.

Answer 8

If they're religious, then they are just disappointed with you bearing children without a husband. They will soon get over it, and love the new baby as they do you're 7yr old (assuming they do). Have a talk with them and let them know how you feel, and remind them how good of a job you did with the first child. If they won't give their blessing, at least a little support would be nice.
Good Luck and Congrats.

Answer 9

First of all I want to tell you Congratulations:) Babies are a wonderful joy as you know. Some people just cannot accept the world the way it is now. I would not let it get you down. Just think about all the joy you are going to have in about 5 months. Good Luck!

Answer 10

You have every right to be happy and they should congratulate you. I come from a Christian family, but my mom and dad were not married whenI was conceived almost 29 years ago. My mom said people treated her babdly, but that she was very happy and enjoyed my babyhood very much and was never sorry that she had me.
Your baby is a gift- you are right to think so, and enjoy it, and incidentally, God does not have the same attitude toward you or your baby that your family is displaying. You have been gifted with a life, and that is always to be celebrated. Congratulations!