what should i do???

Question

my hubby will not let me talk to or know what is going on with my x-boyfriends life. i understand cuz he is my X but hes not just my x. i have known him for ever like all my life. i would love to know how his mom and dad is doing!!!!!!! what should i do

Answer 1

Respect your hubbys wishes... He love you and im sure that if the shoe was on the other foot you would want him to do the same Good luck

Answer 2

Look, if you want to know what is going on with your Xboyfriends life, then you obviously married the wrong guy. When they are your X's, they are considered past known persons that you dont speak with again. You should just be open with your husband and let him know the truth, that you still love your X.

I hope your man realizes that you still love him. It doesnt matter how long you have been in the X's life, you are a married woman now and should only care about YOUR husbands life and your husbands family life.

Please just be honest with him and tell him that you really love your X. Dont keep hurting the poor man anymore!!

Answer 3

The real issue is, you still have feelings for your ex or am I wrong? He is out of your life now, so let him go. You are now married so start behaving like a wife to your husband and who cares what ex is doing.

Would you want your husband to get in touch with his ex-girlfriend to see how she is doing? I don't think so.

Move on with your new life with your husband and stop putting him through all this.

In fact, I would recommend a book to you called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage", by Dr. Laura Schlesinger. This will help your marriage! (smile)

Answer 4

Are you and your ex close friends? i mean really really close? intimacy with friends is very different from intimacy with your husband? make sure you don't confuse/interchange/mix these two. Reassess yourself, why do you still have to take part in your ex's life too much? I was in the same situation before and Ive realized, my husband has got a point. Im into my ex beyond "friendship" though my ex and I don't make love. You could also be depriving your husband some things and you give it to your ex (small things like concern, thoughtfulness, reaching out to his family).. he will really get jealous of your ex...

Answer 5

you should do nothing. If the tables was turned you wouldn't want him poking his nose in his ex girlfriend life. Why are you so concern what goes on in their life? you are clearly out of his life. If you was all that important to your exes people they would contact you. I wouldn't put up with this if you continue to make a deal out of looking into your exes life. I don't know of any sane men that would say this was ok. If you want to know how his mom and dad is really doing, why don't you contact them personally?

Answer 6

Let go of your ex. If you want to know how his parents are doing - get direct contact info for them, and call them up yourself. There's nothing wrong with staying in touch with an ex in and of itself, but if your husband is asking you not to, for whatever reason, you should respect his wishes in such situation.

Answer 7

Who do you love more? Hubby? X? X's Parents? Who do you respect more? Who have you committed to care for and protect till death do you part wether it's easy or not?

Answer 8

Instead of talking to your ex-boyfriend about his parnets maybe you should just talk them yourself. Then hopefully that won't cause problems between you and your hubby.

Answer 9

You might talk with your husband and see if he would be comfortable with you sending a card to your old friend's folks through the post office mail. Other than that, I suggest you move on and respect your husband's tender emotions.

Answer 10

Ask mutual friends or call Mom and Dad directly.