Boyfriend HAPPY when he found out I was pregnant?

Question

My boyfriend is 16. I told him I was pregnant and he was HAPPY! Like he PURPOSELY got me pregnant!

Apparently I screwed up with sarcasm. He wasn't happy please ignore this question.

Answer 1

and you point is?
It take two to get pregnant. Take some responsibility is this disaster, and figure out what you two babies are going to do. You need to talk to your Mom now.

Answer 2

Hello Rosie, I assume when you say ' I hadn't taken the decision lightly' you mean the decision that you want to keep the baby and not that you had intentionally tried to become pregnant. Although I am sure that is what you are saying, if you did stop taking precautions in order to conceive without discussing it with your partner you must agree that that was very irresponsible. What you must remember though is that it 'takes two to tango'. By that I mean that it was also your partner's responsibility to ensure proper precautions were taken. What does disturb me most is the way your partner is behaving toward you. I think it is unforgivable that he should be asking you if he is the father when he undoubtedly knows he is. Although he is the father of the baby the final decision about whether to keep it must be your decision and as you have told him that you want to keep it he should accept this, comfort and support you. Of course having the expense of bringing a baby into the world will put a strain on both your finances, but this is going to be the case in any circumstances, whether the baby is planned or not. Countless millions of couples have had babies and the vast majority of those have had to re-organise their finances. Whether you and he stay together or separate makes little difference. He is required by law to provide financial support for the baby and quite possibly you too. No doubt he is in a form of shock at the moment and the fact that he is soon to become a dad has not yet really sunk in. Hopefully this will change soon and he will realise that the baby is a result of your love for each other. However if he does not change his attitude toward you and your being pregnant I am afraid I fear that your relationship is likely to deteriorate. The most important thing for you now is to start thinking about yourself and the life you have inside you. Sit down with your partner and have a good heart to heart. Ask him why he is acting the way he is and ask him whether he wants this baby or not. Tell him that although the baby was not planned you and he can manage and overcome any financial problems that may arise from it. An unplanned baby is as big a joy as a planned one. In my heart I feel that given a little more time your partner will not only come to accept the fact that you are both going to have an addition to the family but he will will be over the moon and will not be able to wait to start a new live with three rather than two. Having a baby is a miraculous thing and the joys of bringing it up are immeasurable. May I wish you all a very long and happy life together. John (Poseidon)

Answer 3

I am not sure what relevancy that has to the situation. Who cares if he is happy and who cares if he did it on purpose. What are you thinking?
A baby is a world changing (yours) event and you have no idea what you are getting yourself into. My concern, although I am sympathetic to you, is primarily for the unborn. You are a child yourself and you have not even begun to live. This little person who will enter this world via you should be the center of the universe for two parents. Why? Because they deserve no less. Every child should experience parents who are financially stable ( love counts but it doesn't buy diapers, food, shelter, a confident state of mind). You must realize that when this little person is born it will and should consume all of your time. It will cry, need, want, and deserve all of your attention. There will be days ( too many) when just getting out of your PJs is all the time you have to dedicate to yourself. Will you breast feed - the neurological development of the child's brain depends of it. When you are worn out and loosing all your pregnancy weight, will your boyfriend think you attractive? When you tell him that you can't go hang out because you must be with the baby, will he keep his roving eyes to himself. If you decide that the baby is just too needy and you are missing out, will you push the baby onto someone else? The psychological reprocusions on an unwanted child are tragic. How could a child grow up healthy if the enviroment he/she is in is so emotionally and financially unstable. A neglected child is an abused child.
I realize I am being harsh but the reality of having a child is harsh. Even the most prepared couples suffer stress in the best situations. Please, think about this a little more seriously! A child is not a product of an act but a living, breathing being who will suffer if they are not cared for by an educated, dedicated mind.
P.S. When I say educated, I mean someone who has taken the time to research parenting and child psychology because you only get one chance to carefully create a healthy, positive child. Every child should be born under this circumstance and they deseve only the best.

Answer 4

No your boyfriend should not be happy that you are pregnant. No a 16 year old boy should not be having sex with a 13 year old. Please tell your mom. She needs to know. Please think hard about keeping this baby. There are alot of people who would love to adopt the baby. You are a child, you can save some of your childhood. If you keep the child, good luck. Having a child is alot of hard work. Did you ask him how is he going to support this child until you finish school?

Answer 5

You both have a lot of hard decisions to make now. Since you're only 13 your body has not finished developing so carrying a baby will be difficult, painful, and it might not go to term. Do you and your boyfriend have the financial means to support a child? How do you plan to finish school? Is he willing and able to get a full-time job? Do you two plan to get married? Having a baby is a lot of work and makes your future plans complicated. I wish you both luck.

Answer 6

Maybe he is, but only because the two of you are too young to realize what the long term implications will be for you. If he got a thirteen year old girl pregnant on purpose and he's only sixteen then he isn't very smart.

Answer 7

You are responsible for getting pregnant, he didn't do it & you didn't do anything to stop it happening. As for having a baby I think you are way too young. As for your boyfriend well he probably won't be as happy when the real responsibility sets in. Please see an experienced counsellor as this is a decision that is probably too big for you both at the moment. You'll need some help with this one.

Answer 8

Now that your boyfriend knows, it way past time to tell your mother and father. You both need some serious help young lady, so get it now by going to your local health department along with your parents and explain your circumstances. Yes, you should get married for the sake of your child. Unfortunately, your parents and/or his parents are going to have to care for your child until you two are able to care for the child alone. But, for the sake of the child . . . do it.

Answer 9

I wouldn't be happy either being 16 years old and going to have to try to raise a kid. Why weren't you on birth control better yet why are you having sex at age 13? Where are your parents at?

Answer 10

I am really sorry about your mess. I hope your parents and his parents can support this. There is nothing much a 16 year old can do but get a job. The economy is rough. God Bless and good luck.