How do you trust somebody again after they have done stuff to lose that trust but still love them.Just do not know how to trust them again please help me.and can they change for real not just for show?
2007-01-06 13:38:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to be able to trust again after u have been betrayed is hard. has to start with the one who lost your trust. they have to earn your trust again, it is shown by their actions, it is shown by them acknowledging they did u a hurt, and admitting u did not deserve it. they have to show true remorse. if they are doing all these things, and putting forth an effort, than at some point the person hurt has to start focusing on repairing the relationship, and letting the one who lost the trust out of the jail house. but they have to be willing to earn it, and communicate about the hurt, so the person hurt can heal from the pain. the one who did the hurt, has to admit it, be sorry for it, and realize that all this takes time. depends on if their was remorse shown.
2007-01-06 13:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can and do change everyday. It is very very hard to trust a person especially when it comes to cheating. If you love the person that's all you need to kknow to try to make it work. Try taking counseling....make sure to take time out for each other and let the person know that you are having a hard time trusting them again and will be watching them closely. If they flare up and get mad that you are watching them chances are they are going to hurt you again.
If they understand your concerns and are fine with you keeping an extra eye on them, chances are they want to make it work too.
Good Luck.
2007-01-06 13:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can change, but it takes time and tons of effort on their part. As far as regaining trust - you have to fully 100% forgive them first. After you forgive them, you should be able to move on and start to trust them little by little again. The only way you'll know if you can trust them is if you give them some trust and see what happens.
2007-01-06 13:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend cheated on me a year ago, we were strongly in love i didnt want to loose him i tried to end it but he persisted and made me give him a second chance, but to get him back I cheated on him he couldnt say anything, I threatened to do it again if he ever cheated(not that i would it was the lowest thing ive ever done) but the thought of some other guy being with me now makes him churn, and he is 100% loyal as am i.
2007-01-06 13:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust works both ways,if you feel you can't trust them then it's somthing that has to be worked on.Give that person time to show you they made a mistake.If they want to gain your trust again they have to earn it.Just like the word LOVE hey you can say it all day I LOVE YOU but it's your actions that truly show if they are real.
2007-01-06 13:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe people can change but its all in there personality if there willing to change or not. But to trust someone again it just takes time. Or both of you willing to start over which I couldn't forgive so we are now divorced. But you've got to let them know you won't let it happen again.
2007-01-06 13:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by melanie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on what they did to brake the trust, and if they truly repent I think that they can be trusted. If you love the person and you want to give them a second chance, than you just do. but they have to prove and earn your trust. good luck!
2007-01-06 13:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think someone can change their ways... if they truely love you. If they have done something to lose your trust then they need to prove to you that it will be better. Also, I believe what goes around, comes around. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 13:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how deep the emotional wound is, it has to heal naturally. take some time off from the relationship and make sure its them who reestablishes it, because otherwise you'll probably have a false sense of security and be hurt again.
isn't it strange how badly love can hurt?
2007-01-06 13:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 13:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋